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A conspiracy at home
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Ron,Ar    Posted 03-07-2004 at 08:10:06       [Reply]  [No Email]
I think something is going on here behinds my back. Yesterday while on this computer there was a series of calls to and from our house between the wife and the two grown daughters. The oldest,a stepdaughter,is married w/two children. The youngest, the baby girl, the pride and joy of my life, is 29 unmarried, got a good job, bought her own house and vehicles, very independant most of the time. Lives 90 miles away, has younger boyfriend thats there 90% of the time.
I kept hearing bits and pieces of these calls,including "I'm not going to say anything to Dad yet", "you better get to the doctor monday morning", she took two tests, one positive, one negitive", "well I never had morning sickness with you"
I asked what Wendy wanted, "oh, she just doesn't feel well"
I call her, same story mostly.
I think there is a young fella from Indiana (the boyfriend)that is fixin to have his world turned upside down. What I can't understand is why the big secret? I hope my hunch is wrong but I suspect a grandchild in the works. What it sound like to you folks?

deadcarp    Posted 03-07-2004 at 08:53:12       [Reply]  [No Email]
i admire young couples nowdays & have 2 wishes - i wish them well and they gotta be absolutely crazy. But i guess that's how we all got here. :)

Sid    Posted 03-07-2004 at 08:50:22       [Reply]  [No Email]
Sounds as if you may be right Ron Ar. From what I have read of you post on this board and some of the opinions you have expressed you seem to be a lot like me. I do not mean that as an insult nor do I expect it to be taken as a compliment. Lets just say I have had that experience and I know fully well in my case why the secrecy and expect that is the same in your case also. I do not think it is an insult to Dad as much as respect. Hang in there I am sure in your case it will turn out many blessings in the long run as in mine.

cowgirlj    Posted 03-07-2004 at 08:48:21       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Hmmmm, sounds like we should be saying congradulations! Don't know why women are so afraid of how thier father is going to react to that type of news! Maybe she just wants to be SURE before saying anything to you.

TO35    Posted 03-07-2004 at 08:28:21       [Reply]  [No Email]
Better start helping the future son-n-law buy cigars...


DD    Posted 03-07-2004 at 08:21:14       [Reply]  [No Email]
Sounds like it to me too : ) But why is the boyfriends world gonna be turned upside down? She IS a grown woman. Not trying to start an argument here, just asking : )

Sid    Posted 03-07-2004 at 08:42:12       [Reply]  [No Email]
There could be several reasons that the "young man would have his world turned upside down." Young or old man you play the game you accept the responsiblities no if ands or buts. I wish I could be more specific in my answer but just call it a father thing. NOT arguing here just trying to answer.

DD    Posted 03-07-2004 at 08:51:39       [Reply]  [No Email]
I take no offense at the Father thing, I was just trying to show ya'll Fathers how it would look from a Daughters perspective too. I'd say if this young man steps up to the plate and does the right thing then there wasnt any reason to get all upset. And if he runs away from his responsibilities then he's not the kind of person you'd want your Daughter hooked up with in the first place. There's just no way of telling until then though. And I don't feel like HE should be the ONLY one to blame. She's a grown woman and when ya play with fire, sometimes ya get burned. They are BOTH old enough to know where babies come from. And both should know the steps to take if they didn't want to take that chance. Here again, I'm NOT trying to start an argument. Just voicing my opinion : )

Sid    Posted 03-07-2004 at 16:04:43       [Reply]  [No Email]
You are right about both playing with fire. I am refering to the young man who did not stand up and take his part of the responsibilty things turned out great in spite of it. Yes I appreciate your daughters point of view. I know you are not starting an argument and again I appreciate you daughters point of view. I am proud of the way my daughter took on her responsibility and I have a great respect for her and other Women like her who are raising a child alone, but she reminds me she is not alone she has parents and brother and sisters to help. My parents are both gone but my wifes folks have been great to help as well.

Ron,ar    Posted 03-07-2004 at 08:28:34       [Reply]  [No Email]
let me just say, BTDT 30+years ago, sometimes these things work out. BTW he just turned 21

DD    Posted 03-07-2004 at 08:40:29       [Reply]  [No Email]
It's a crapshoot for any couple who's trying to make it work nowadays. Age is just a number when you really care about someone. << JMHO, It sounds to me like she's got a good head on her shoulders. You and her Ma obviously did a good job raising her if she's self sufficient and has her own house and vehicles. My way of looking at things is this: "Don't go borrowing trouble until there is some." This might be what he and she both wanted. So until they let you in on whatever it is that's going on it's not gonna do you any good to worry yourself over it. And maybe just this kind of reaction is what she's afraid she would get from you so that's why all the secrecy until she knows for sure. PLEASE, don't take that the wrong way. I'm 36 and know My Dad would be the same way and I'd try to keep it from him until I found out for sure too. I'm just trying to let you see it from another perspective : )

Fern(Mi)    Posted 03-07-2004 at 09:53:04       [Reply]  [No Email]
A couple things come to my mind. But I was still young yet.
In the old germen comunity where I was raised getting married for mistakes was the up front thing to do.
I'd desided I could wait for marriage. To many girls went a visiting long lost relatives to often for my concerns. When I got married it was because I wanted to; not, because I had to.
Yup we got hitched in a fever: and Frieda was pretty good about carrying our first baby 18mons.

The worst sight was the change over mom when she heard the news. Her hair turned white and her face wrinkled. These were things I never saw before.

DD    Posted 03-07-2004 at 10:28:44       [Reply]  [No Email]
I agree. I see it everyday here. Young girls still in high school with one, two, sometimes 3 kids. I don;t get it. I surely don;t agree with it. But they are all old enough to know what caused them to get pregnant and old enough to get put on the pill or whatever. I can't say I got married both times before for love (Sadly) I got married both times before for the WRONG reasons. The first one was to get out of my parents house, and the second was because I was lonely and he had a good line of B.S. I have no one to blame but myself. Now my theory is: I don't want someone I can just live WITH, I want someone I can't live WITHOUT. That someone to me is Dsl. He's My Best Friend in the whole wide world. I've shared more about my past life with him than I even cared to admit to myself. Some of the things that have happened to me in the past were not pretty and I never told a soul until he came along. I never felt like I could. We have a strict No Secrets Policy and I like that. It's refreshing to be able to share EVERYTHING with someone : )

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