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Aprille    Posted 05-10-2004 at 07:02:24       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Fun is..waking up on Mother's Day with your oldest child telling you HE is your gift as he strangles you with his bony arms and legs in a bear hug sure to cut off any HOPE of breathing right..Fun is when all else goes badly..Your man..who you have stuck by thru all his crap and who is suppose to be your BEST friend..tells u it would be BEST for you to see someone else..after 13 yrs..uhHUH!! I suppose I should be happy we never lived together..

Patria    Posted 05-10-2004 at 10:53:50       [Reply]  [No Email]
Hi Aprille, I could be mistaking, but I remember from an earlier post from you telling us about his health problems?
Would it be that he feels that since he can not provide for you and your kid, you would be better off with somebody who can?
Just wondering, cause you didn't give too many details -not that they are needed- and maybe we might be jumping in all kind of conclusions[sp].
I just hope that is the case and that somehow you'll be able to mend back to good your relationship.

deadcarp    Posted 05-10-2004 at 10:52:11       [Reply]  [No Email]
It will probably sound like i'm raining on your parade but that's not my intention okay? I guess in your world it sounds like mate-shoppin time again aprille - best of luck & i can tell our rules are different. :)

As a rebel nation we've come a long ways haven't we? When i grew up, the folks would visit if they wanted us kids to get acquainted, then once you weren't so awkward around the opposite $ex anymore, you'd spend months smiling at a gal every time you saw her, date her til spring when she'd quit resembling a giant hand-grenade and you could see what you got, and eventually find decent-enough stock for parenting material, call it "true love", get married and get used to making mistakes. Any student who got in trouble was shipped off to one of many adoption convents. (The resulting couples seemed to work about half the time.)

Nowdays it's quite different - girls who chase around are considered no worse than the guys they sleep with - expertise in bed is no more important than laundry expertise - the guys are no longer burdened as "assumed breadwinners" - some girls wear smocks in high school and usually there's a family growing before anybody considers settling down.

Even though God designed our systems to ripen at 12, those in charge of peon control imposed some pseudo-religious moratorium til age 18. That was about as bright and successful as prohibition. So i sincerely hope this works better than our system, and if there is love, may we grownups stand far enough back & be open-minded & patient enough to let them find it. :)

Texas    Posted 05-10-2004 at 10:37:24       [Reply]  [No Email]
Lose that loser Aprille. I know its easy for me to say, and hard for you to do maybe....but youll be much happier.

Ron,ar    Posted 05-10-2004 at 10:20:13       [Reply]  [No Email]
Well dangit Aprille, is this just something that he did because things are looking rough right now. I remember my wife telling early in our marriage I probably would have been better off with someone else, (younger, less baggage, she had three kids when I met her) but she really didn't mean she thought I should start looking. We stuck it out and 30+ years later we are still together. I hope things start looking up for you. We are here if you want to talk, might help. I guess I have not been reading close enough to see how things have been getting for you, sorry, I'm gonna start paying more attention to the posts.

Alias    Posted 05-10-2004 at 10:09:35       [Reply]  [No Email]
Aprille, I have to go along with what Willy-N and the rest have written. If your man is so uncaring as to drop something like that on you on Mother's day, he ain't worth hanging onto. So, make haste in getting some distance between you and him. Breaking up can be hard but staying with a jerk can be harder. Find yourself a good man.......gfp

KellyGa    Posted 05-10-2004 at 10:30:18       [Reply]  [No Email]
Ditto that! There is a good man out there waiting for you. :)

Willy-N    Posted 05-10-2004 at 09:25:02       [Reply]  [No Email]
A man that would tell you that on Mothers Day ain't worth being with! Get you another one and have a enjoyable life that you can prosper with. Starting over is hard but when that right one comes along the bombs burst in air again!! Beleave me it happen to me 20 years ago and the happieness is unbeliveable!! Mark H.

Yabbut....    Posted 05-10-2004 at 08:44:52       [Reply]  [No Email]
If that is your case I'm thinkin you got the better part of the deal.A child will love you without reservation which is a better deal any way ya look at it.The love you would have wasted on a man who did that to you can now be given to your child!!:^)


DD    Posted 05-10-2004 at 07:33:57       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I know EXACTLY what you mean Aprille. True Happiness HAS TO come from within ourselves though. We can't count on anyone else to make us Happy. Just like we can't do that for them. Keep your chin up cuz it's gonna get better. EVERYTHING happens for a reason. Our job is to learn the lesson behind it ; ) As long as you know you did the right thing. God knows it too : )

Aprille the Hopeful    Posted 05-10-2004 at 12:52:56       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I know and am taking every1's advice and lettin him go his own way..Not even botherin ta cry! The boys are takin it ok..cept for the lil one..but he is close ta daddy..After all this I am just tired..tired of tryin so hard in a one way relationship with a good man but a very selfish boy..I have never had the opportunity or the fortune of having had a love so strong that they would want to make the bond of marriage..for whateva reason..ah least I will be prepared the next time!! Already bought my dress for my wedding!! LOL Thanx all..and no I don't feel bad for him..he is being a kaka head and I am NOT an expendable resource

donna in w.v    Posted 05-10-2004 at 15:35:11       [Reply]  [Send Email]
hang in there girl!!! i spent 13 yrs. in a rotten marraige and when i left i figured i'd be alone allthe rest of my life.,but the lord had other plans for me . I met my hubby in the paint store i was running,not only did he love me for me and excecpt all my baggage[2 teen boys] but he was a christian and led me to the lord and except for a mol who ain't crazy about me i have a wonderful and joyful life.

Aprille    Posted 05-10-2004 at 15:52:45       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Well..I have to admit I feel a WHOLE lot better knowing that I did not make the mistake of pushing him into matter what he has I still get a little even if I DON'T want it..he does have that sense of good for idea what it means and doesn't REEEAAALLLY matter..still goin' strong focusing on finding a job..Thanx to all for the fine advice..I do believe that that which doesn't kill us strengthens us..and MAN am I STRONG!! HeeheheheaaahahaaahAAAAAAAAAAA!!

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