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and calling it quits    Posted 05-26-2004 at 07:53:22       [Reply]  [No Email]
A very dear couple that I have known my whole life is gettting divorced after 42 years. They were like family to me. It was such a shock to learn that the husband had been cheating on her with a very young women.

They took me to church every Sunday. They were even the marriage counslers at church. They were one of those couples that you think it could never happen too. They had been through so much together.

I look at people who have been married all those years and think they must have it all figured out. My parents have been married for 36 years. The sad things is that the only other people I know who have been married longer than that are dead.

It kinda makes me wonder if anyone can stay married forever these days. I guess I am just loosing my faith in love lasting forever. Maybe I should consider it a life lesson....when or if my 42 years ever get here I need to remember to be on top of my game.


bill b va    Posted 05-26-2004 at 11:26:35       [Reply]  [No Email]

will be 50 years this january to a mule headed woman . am providing for her if i kick the bucket first. she used to get mad because my name was on top of hers on our joint bank accounts . i told her the man was supposed to be on top . she went off .


Chip    Posted 05-26-2004 at 10:52:26       [Reply]  [No Email]
Sometimes you don't ever find out what really starts things like that in motion. Today is my 20th anniversary, and 2 years ago my wife just up and said she wanted a divorce. I'm still not sure what her beef truly was. The news blind-sided me. At that time, we'd been married 18 years, and I can truly say we had not had more than 6 serious arguments that I could remember. People change, I guess. But I took marriage seriously, and I don't believe in dumping your spouse just cause you're bored. At least not without some counseling, to see if things could be worked out. But in this case, the choice was not mine.


Willy-N    Posted 05-26-2004 at 09:03:03       [Reply]  [No Email]
I have seen some stay together for a long time then when they get older they lose something in there way they think do to age? A few couples I have noticed that one of them becomes a grouch or so set in there ways there different then befor. I hope this is not just part of getting old I will have to watch that if my mind starts to go bad, but then will I notice it?? I hope I do if not I am sure I will be told to hit the road if I become the grouch you can't live with. Mark H.


earl    Posted 05-26-2004 at 09:27:35       [Reply]  [No Email]
I'm 36 yrs. been married 10 yrs. Very confident I'll die married to my wife and happy. I attended a wedding early may. the longest married couple at the reception were together for 63 years, they had a ball dancing and laughing together. It's all trust and honesty. We have no secrets from one another and talk everything through. Can't remember ever arguing with her. If an argument is a weekly or more often occurence, then something is very wrong with the relationship.


Bruce    Posted 05-26-2004 at 09:58:28       [Reply]  [No Email]
September 18th makes twenty six years for my wife and I. We argue at least once a day and it works for us. This is her second marriage and my third. Between us we have eight children. Hers mine and someone elses. We currently have fifteen grandchildren, with two more on the way. We have very little in common and a tough time doing anything together. She doesn't work out of the house and I work all the time at something . Drinking causes us to really yell at each other. My wife is extremely jealous as I am such a handsome, 55 years young, bald, fat man [270 lbs]. At this time however, I have never met any one that I can or like to dance with as well. This just goes to show that it is truly a matter of "to each his own".



DD    Posted 05-26-2004 at 08:18:18       [Reply]  [No Email]
I'm Sorry to hear about ANY Marriage busting up no matter how long it's been. It's all give and take in this Life but it can't just be a one sided thing either. It takes both parties involved to make it work. I think way too many people go into Marriage these days with the mindset that: Ah, if it doesn't work out we'll just get divorced. That sure is a p*ss poor way to look at it. If you make that Commitment and take those vows it should be because you BOTH Believe in the vows you take Heart & Soul.


Wisereader    Posted 05-26-2004 at 08:14:09       [Reply]  [No Email]
That is really, really sad to hear, Stormie. Love is as much (or more) of a descision/committment as it is feeling or emotion based. Our society has a really serious committment problem that transends much of our attitudes and behaviors. This shows itself in the "me" society, the "throw away" society

My parents divorced after nearly 30 years of marriage. Eighteen years later, there are still effects on all of us, including the effects on their grandchildren now.


JB    Posted 05-26-2004 at 09:28:10       [Reply]  [No Email]
We just celebrated 54 years, and are reaching for a dozen more, at least. One of us don't hear or see so good, and the other is pretty grouchy. We don't agree on what to watch on TV anymore, so we pretty much keep to different rooms, tho there is just a wall between. Some find that funny, but if you know you can't stand another re-run Mash or Matlock, why should you have to watch it?

Mainly, you just keep on keepin' on, taking the good with the bad. Hopefully, at life's end, the good will far outweigh the bad.


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