Posted 07-14-2004 at 06:08:50
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I have the next 5 days to do whatever without interruption. I have SO much to do. Why? Why you ask, well let me tell you what has happened as of late.
When we went to Florida, we had two friends keeping an eye on things here. One, a long time friend of Ians and mine, and the other, Shelbys best friends mother, which her and I have gottne pretty close over the pst year or more. Well..to make a long story short, she has been verbally abused, cheated on, put down, made to feel like she is nothing, for years. The other, our guy friend, has no luck with women, every time he gets one, she turns out psycho stalker on him. So...while we were gone, they kinda hooked up. Nobody's fault, we all know things happen when push comes to shove.
That was a month ago, she loves him, he is getting there, it was hard for him to commit to her with her still being married, even if he is an SOB. I could go into stories about how I know for a fact of the abuse, they used to live next door, and I would hear him, ranting and raving at all hours of the night at her, lecturing her like a child, belittling her. Well, now she has found someone, bless her heart, that I KNOW will tret her right, and I am happy for both of them.
Well, poop hit the fan and she decided she had had enough after 18 years of a miserable marriage and told him she wanted a divorce. She told him she wanted to reconciliation, she wanted out. He has deleted all phone numbers out of her cell phone, and hidden it. He, come to find out, has been lurking in bushes and who knows where else while her and I sit out under the carport and talk.
Yesterday, she went down to pack, her and her daughter are going to Florida, this was already planned. Guess who came up here and cornered me for over an hour??? Yep, her husband, trying to get me to hear his side, and on top of that, he repeats himself over and over, which is irritating. He kept telling me that he hopes if anything ever happened bad between Ian and me that Ian would never have as good a friend as Karen has in me. So...he was insinuating I was to blame, even though he SAID I wasn't. He hammered me for over an hour. Ian had no idea he was outside yammering on at me.
Bottom line being, she has been miserable for years, and she finally got the guts to get out from under his thumb. He admitted to me he is impotent from drug use, whos fault is that? He asked me did I discourage it or encourage it all, I told him neither, that they are adults, they don't need me to do either, they can make up thier own minds.
So...her and her daughter left out from here this morning. I love them both, but I have not been able to get a dang thing done around here, so I am going to go do everything I have needed to do for days now, got to catch up. All I got done yesterday was mowing the back! I had a lot more to do than that, I can assure you.
He is trying to get my sympathy, because he knows I can change her mind, he mocks our friendship at the same time, but he knows I could, but I won't, because I told him something I have been wanting to tell him for a very long time. I told him I heard all those nights he beat her down verbally and made her cry til 3 am, when she had to get up and go to work. He didn't know what to say to that. He tried later to come back with he never physically abused her, pphhhht...verbal is just as bad in my book, and he was BAD. He stays home, no job, stays up partying with friends til all hours of the night, he pays no attention to her, never does anything as a family with them. Last year,at their daughters birthday party, he mad ea 10 minute appearance, and it wasnt even during cake and presents, then he was gone.
He will never convince me that she should have stayed. She should have left 10 years ago when he has a FOUR year affair. What a dirtbag, he started the affair right after she got pregnant with their first child.
Well, I am going to finish my coffee and get on this house and yard, I luvs y'all, see ya later. :)