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What do you do to survive the isolation in the country?
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WallSal55    Posted 04-05-2002 at 16:01:31       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I was raised on a 420 acre farm (and Christmas
tree farm). It was truly beautiful, peaceful,
but a very isolating way to grow up (22 yrs.) I married somebody, moved to small town, USA. Raised a family in town until things just got too crazy! Moved to a farmette. We have lived in the country for 12 years now, but I feel like the isolation is getting to me again. I cannot foresee ever going back to town, until I'm ready
for a nursing home, as they put more sirens (louder ones) up in town, and I now have an illness that causes my ears great sensitivity to
noise. My nerves are sooo much better again,
but the isolation just gets to me sometimes.
What do you do?

Mark in Ely, NV    Posted 04-06-2002 at 15:30:33       [Reply]  [Send Email]
My wife and I live in a small town in NE Nevada and we have three acres of land that we live on.
Our town of Ely, NV is 6500 feet above sea level and has a total population of <5000 people. We live about five miles south of town and we have five other families living around us.
I am disabled and must spend many hours at home alone while my wife works as a nurse in town. I do at times get a little stir crazy but all I have to do is look outside and find many things to keep busy.
I love to hunt, shoot weapons, fish, go 4x4ing, cut wood for re-sale (the extra cash does come in handy), and plan our landscaping.
My wife works four 12s on the grave shift so I find myself alone way too much.
Have to love the country because there will always be more things to do here vs living in a bigger city where everything cost money to do.

M. McCollum    Posted 10-14-2004 at 17:34:00       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I worry about my son (7 yrs.) not having playmates. Even though we are surrounded by fields, wildlife, mountains, etc. I am the only one that has ever taken him out for walks, etc. the neighbors around here stick to themselves, and even though everyone owns 200 or 20 acres, the kids don't get to play on all these acres, at least, not with each other. Even attending the local small town school hasn't helped. parents seem to have so many "requisites" or "standards" of who their kid is allowed to play with, none of the kids play with anybody after school, or weekends etc. My husband says that the old "neighborhood" friendliness does not exist anymore, and I would hate it even more if we moved into town. I thought because I enjoyed my country experience growing up, I would provide same for my son, but, I was living in a dream world apparently, people in the country now aren't as friendly as I remember. How do you survive especially when your husband has all kinds of outside activities like football referee, business travel etc. and I stay home feeding animals and feeling like a single parent in a barren landscape.

Hal/WA    Posted 04-06-2002 at 13:28:18       [Reply]  [No Email]
I also am very sensitive to noises due to Meniere's disease. Have you discovered the little foam ear plugs? I always carry a few of them in my pocket and if it gets too noisey, I discretely put the plugs in my ears. I have thought about hearing aids (that I could turn down or off), but can get by pretty well most of the time with the plugs--and they are so cheap they are almost free.

Some of the things I like to do are quite noisy. High School sports, especially my favorite, basketball would be impossible for me without ear plugs. The whistles, clapping and yelling just hurt too much. I could not use my tractor or work in the shop without ear protection. Even church is tough without the plugs. Kind of handy for my wife's snoring too!

As far as finding things to do, there are always things to do on my property, shop or house. I have time to fool with the computer, now that I am retired. And at last resort, there is satellite TV. I hope never to have to live in town again. My neighbors will never get any closer than they are now, because I own all the land in between.

Ron/Pa    Posted 04-06-2002 at 12:30:11       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Sometimes it is all in how you look at it. When it so quiet I can hear the sun set I enjoy it the most. No I am not a recluse, but having been born and raised on this farm, I could not wait to move back to the most remote part of it for the solitude.
My wife and I don't survive the isolation we enjoy it.
Good luck and keep in touch

Ole Cuss    Posted 04-06-2002 at 07:35:27       [Reply]  [No Email]

Sit down and think about what you feel like you're missing from being isolated. Do you crave some human contact, more than the internet can provide? Try to get do a little volunteering or just help out a neighbor; if you don't know your neighbors well, gently make some approaches and get acquainted; some baked goods are always a great introduction. Does you area have a community college or YMCA that offers courses or trips? Sometimes just a few hours reading quietly at the library with other folks around can be a tonic.Do you feel a need to accomplish something? Gardening, cleaning up alongside a county road, clearing a fencerow, working with crafts, etc. can keep you busy and have something to show for it afterwards. And it can be wonderful just to enjoy what the Great Spirit has put all around us. Long walks and hikes just for the heck of it, to drink in the beauty, to sit quietly in the woods and listen to nature and observe the other creatures; bring along a camera or notebook or sketchbook. Let your mind be still and calm there, and you will be amazed at how much you can learn about yourself and the world simply by keeping your eyes, ears, and mind open. No one should ever be bored in the woods.

geo in Mi    Posted 04-06-2002 at 05:10:03       [Reply]  [No Email]
Sounds to me like you are doing the best thing possible, asking questions and keeping in contact with like-minded people on this forum. You're never really isolated today as long as the power is on and the hard drive doesn't crash......

wapial    Posted 04-06-2002 at 04:08:22       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I live by myself 8 miles from town and a mile from nearest neighbor.I have the internet, a cell phone (for emergencys) and no cable t.v. I love it ! winter in western Oregon can be dull at times with a lot of gray rainy days. A stroke 5 years ago left me with a partially paralized left side. with the internet and my hobby( restoring old tractors) I have been able to stay active and
overcome the effects of the stroke and have no problems with boredom I guess I'm lucky as I love my life!

wapial    Posted 04-06-2002 at 04:07:53       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I live by myself 8 miles from town and a mile from nearest neighbor.I have the internet, a cell phone (for emergencys) and no cable t.v. I love it ! winter in western Oregon can be dull at times with a lot of gray rainy days. A stroke 5 years ago left me with a partially paralized left side. with the internet and my hobby( restoring old tractors) I have been able to stay active and
overcome the effects of the stroke and have no problems with boredom I guess I'm lucky as I love my life!

Salmoneye    Posted 04-06-2002 at 04:07:40       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I drink...

Therefore I am...


Les...fortunate    Posted 04-06-2002 at 03:42:59       [Reply]  [No Email]
My wife is (was, I should say) a city girl. I took her away from that and we live in the woods. Her siblings all wonder how we stand it up here. "What do you do? There's nothing to do up there?" are words we've heard from them many times.
Well, I'll tell you, sometimes it's nice to have an evening at home once in a while. If we wanted to, we could be out "doing something" every night of the week. We are active members of the church (that's not just on Sunday unless that's all you want); we belong to the Grange (if you don't know what that is it's easy enough to find out); I play in a Bluegrass band and call square dances; I belong to the American Legion; my wife volunteers at the crisis pregnancy center; we visit old folks, either at home or in nursing homes. And I haven't even mentioned family and farm/home things that are more than enough to keep one busy (grandchildren, garden, apple trees, tractors, firewood, etc.)
There's more than ample opportunities everywhere.
A large portion of Americans these days seems to think that they are owed entertainment on demand. I feel sorry for them.
I can't see my nearest neighbor but I sure ain't isolated. I think isolated must be a state of mind.

DJ    Posted 04-06-2002 at 05:41:41       [Reply]  [No Email]
Les, I agree that isolation can be a state of mind. I don't know how it's possible for a free person to actually be isolated anywhere on this planet.

If someone is feeling isolated, it's time for them to get busy and take some of your suggestions.

DJ    Posted 04-05-2002 at 21:42:03       [Reply]  [No Email]
I don't feel isolated but if I did, I believe I could come up with something that would change that problem.

I don't know how I could feel isolated if I am staying busy. Or if I have good friends, which I do.........

I have lots of family around too.

If I didn't have these that I mentioned, I think I would start working towards having them.

I don't get enough isolation to suite me.

Mudcat49    Posted 04-05-2002 at 17:57:23       [Reply]  [No Email]
Why do you think farm couples have so many kids? HEE HEE HEE

Dwayne W PA    Posted 04-05-2002 at 17:54:30       [Reply]  [No Email]
Not ta be smart WallSal55,...but..I kick back and ENJOY it!!,and would`nt want it any other way.don`t know yer exact predicament,but I like the isolation.

BOSS    Posted 04-06-2002 at 05:46:51       [Reply]  [No Email]
You hit the nail on the head there!! Though I don't have time to even be able to think about being isolated. Hey, where in W Pa are you from? I'm originally from Cannonsburg, close to you?

Dwayne W PA    Posted 04-08-2002 at 09:48:30       [Reply]  [No Email]
hey Boss,sorry,jes got back ta checkin in,i`ve heard of Cannonsburg,not sure exactly where it`s at though, I`m in the Avonmore, Saltsburg area along the kiskiminetas river,bout 30 min.from latrobe,20-25 miles south of indiana

F14    Posted 04-05-2002 at 17:47:16       [Reply]  [No Email]
How "isolated" are you? How far is your nearest neighbor? R. Hudson has the best advice so far IMHO. You're only isolated in the country if you want to be.

Personally, I could stand a little more of it where I'm at...

Ira    Posted 04-05-2002 at 17:39:09       [Reply]  [Send Email]
My first thought was "enjoy it". Evidently you don't tho or you wouldn't have posted the message. Have you ever sat down and tried to figure out what you think is missing? Do you need more people around, or just something to keep your self occupied(hobby)? Just acouple of thoughts.

PCC-AL    Posted 04-05-2002 at 17:38:54       [Reply]  [No Email]
Hi WS55,
I grew up in the country, a mile from the nearest small community. I didn't know there was any other way. My pop pushed me out of the nest and made me go get an education. I hated it and rebelled as far as I could. I finally gave in and did what he wanted. Grew up, got maybe a little sense in my head and stayed out of prison. Some of my friends didn't. Worked with dad and cared for my parents until he and mom passed on. Now, I'm rearing my youngest son in the country. I'm going to try and do it just like my dad did. I think he knew what this world was all about. Make them smart and give them the choice. Good luck.

john henry    Posted 04-05-2002 at 17:36:46       [Reply]  [No Email]
This is what I do: We know a couple that are good people but have a way of getting on my nerves pretty bad after a short while. Everytime I get a hankerin for company or feeling lonely I invite them over for Sunday dinner and By the time they leave I remember how much I appreaciate my solitude. One visit is good for about 6 months ;^)

rhudson    Posted 04-05-2002 at 16:45:54       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I don't see the problem either. but do you go to church on Sunday, i know many that go for the fellowship more than the religion. When we had country stores, my father would go to it after dinner...but that was to get away from the kids and mother for a few hours. try beekeeping and go to the local monthly meetings. just look around, folks are out there.

Be carefull.. i had a sister that spent her whole life looking for something that she never found. Home is where you make it.

kraig WY    Posted 04-05-2002 at 16:08:42       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Sorry don't see a problem. Get a good horse and enjoy it.

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