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Home burials
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deadcarp    Posted 08-04-2004 at 07:51:45       [Reply]  [No Email]
Saw an interesting program on pbs about home burials. They compared the typical $6000 "bleed & pickle" commercial approach (then comes another $2000 for the plot, stones etc) with an old-fashioned version. Contrary to popular rumor, bodies don't discolor and decompose right away - it takes days. And regardless of the casket's price, we DO ultimately return to dust. Then they showed the grieving process when families took care of their own, with the body laid out at home. Only 5 states outlaw home burial. What do you think of it? :)
In our state, mn, you CAN have a home burial, enbalming is NOT required, and you CAN choose a spot on your own property to bury a loved one. There are vault laws, plot registration & fencing requirements but it's being done.

Mike in tn    Posted 08-04-2004 at 14:26:09       [Reply]  [No Email]
$6000.00 sounds cheap to me. In my area you can't get by under $10,000. Most funerals run in the $12,000 range. I have always thought that this was such a waste. I have instructed my family not to do it, but I am sure that they will anyway. Dad told us that when he died he would rather us put a hard hat on him and take a sledge hammer and drive him in the ground than for us to spend all that money. Guess what happened, mom spent $9,000 and that was 9 years ago. Those funeral directors are some real salesman. I put them right up there with lawyers.

Dieselrider    Posted 08-04-2004 at 15:13:36       [Reply]  [No Email]
Well, that does it. I can't afford to die then, just can't. I'll have to keep on pesterin the whole bunch of ya."St. Peter don't ya call me cause I can't go. I owe my soul to the company store".

Burrhead    Posted 08-04-2004 at 15:16:19       [Reply]  [No Email]
Dieselrider I aint goin no whur either so I'll see ye around here I guess.

buck    Posted 08-04-2004 at 13:15:35       [Reply]  [No Email]

When Dad died we put him away in style. The undertaker's family has been putting my family away for ever so being over charged is not a question. He earned what he was put away with and when it came Mom's turn we said do the same as Dad's. Now me I got a sore place now for old family graveyards. Everyone wants them kept up and nobody wants to give a dime or any time. Just yesterday I donated a few gallons of sweat to the upkeep of ours that thas been full for 50 years. Mom cared more for the place than anyone I know and there wasn't room to bury Dad and her there. So my take is do anything with my old body but don't make someone else have to take care of a plat of ground because I was buried there. My instructions are to cremate me but I don't really think I will be able to make sure that happens. BTW when Dad died I ask the undertaker to describe a burial that was the absolute minimum that could be done. He ask if I really wanted to know and took me to a room he had set up for just that purpose. The complete bill would have been 220 dollars (covered by ss) at that time but hey no way my Dad was going to be laid to rest that way.

JB    Posted 08-04-2004 at 09:11:50       [Reply]  [No Email]
We recently had a death in the family, and, while we didn't have him buried on our property, we did do a 'budget burial', which was less than half what most wanted for the service. We also did the memorial service ourselves. Just played a couple of his favorite songs (CDs) and then we stood and told stories about the deceased, both good and bad. There were more funny stories told than sad, and everyone who wished to speak did so. It was a good service, remembering a man who died too young. I am sure we will do similiar services in the future. I have told my family I prefer cremation, with no fancy urn. They are free to do as they wish with the ashes, as long as they don't buy a plot and bury them. It is ok to bury them in a flower bed, or take them to the spot we fished so many times, and privately stew them there. No official has to know of the disposition, as far as I am concerned. When you are dead, you are dead, and the soul has departed this earth. Do as you will with the remains.

Alias    Posted 08-04-2004 at 09:03:49       [Reply]  [No Email]
Now folks, I know I've always been a free thinker, so it wasn't a hard decision for me to commit,(Donate), my body to Science. You see, I have a family that can benifit from the exhorbitant money the undertakers charge. And, out there somewhere there may be a smart boy or girl who can actually learn from examining my remains. But, the most important thing for me is knowing no member of my family will ever see my body in a coffin. I'd rather their last memories of me will be while i'm still alive....gfp

Paula    Posted 08-04-2004 at 08:04:48       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I heard about it on NPR this weekend. The POV program was
called "A Family Undertaking". I wanted to see it or have
someone tape it for me since I don' t have TV. I thought the
'bleed and pickle' remark was pretty good. I would like to buy
the DVD when it comes out.


Fawteen    Posted 08-04-2004 at 07:56:19       [Reply]  [No Email]
Funerals/Burial expenses are a disgusting ripoff.

My wife has instructions to stick a hambone up my exhaust pipe and let the dogs drag me off.

Unfortunately, that's probably not legal, so I'll settle for being cremated and my ashes spread on the compost heap.

It's the memories that count, not the spoiling meat.

deadcarp    Posted 08-04-2004 at 08:37:55       [Reply]  [No Email]
Might be a workable plan fawteen - critters don't generally have to obey silly regulations - nature solves their issues. (this is no kidding) There was a old couple when i was small who used to grow excellent strawberries, so we'd go every year and pick some. Well one day the neighbors saw some strange activity, got curious and asked the sheriff to investigate so he went over. Here the mrs had died so mr rhombish had dug a hole behind his house, dragged her into it and buried her. He then dressed up & was observed with his bible, conducting a service and it was done. He took the deputy around to show him the spot and here their dogs had dug the poor deceased gal up and eaten half of her. Since no crime had been committed he was permitted to put her remains in a box, set a marker and buried her deeper this time.

Mugway LOL    Posted 08-04-2004 at 08:05:37       [Reply]  [No Email]
Gad, I found that funny,(sorry) but I feel the same as you.

Texas    Posted 08-04-2004 at 08:03:19       [Reply]  [No Email]
Ive made it known that who ever is left standing after Im gone can just simply drag me out in the pasture. Reckon the coyotes gotta eat too.

jeanette    Posted 08-04-2004 at 08:03:08       [Reply]  [No Email]
you know i think it is illegal to spread ashes too.

deadcarp    Posted 08-04-2004 at 08:20:17       [Reply]  [No Email]
Ashes are a pretty un-regulated subject: While it might be argued that a decomposing body poses some health risk, ashes are just sterile and (relatively) harmless ashes and cause far less disturbance than say roadkill. Luckily for us, most states can't find an excuse to tax or profit from them. :)

Bkeepr    Posted 08-04-2004 at 09:08:03       [Reply]  [No Email]
One of my neighbors spred and tilled in his parents ashes in flower beds at the foot of two large trees on his property, where he (and they) figured they'd feed the trees and flowers for some time to come.

Personally, I sort of like that idea.


steve19438    Posted 08-04-2004 at 08:17:04       [Reply]  [Send Email]
who's gonna know!

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