Posted 10-26-2004 at 03:44:46
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..yeah that'll be the day. Lol.
My 'independent girl' called last night. It's been roughly two weeks since she stormed out of the house to "take care of her own self!"
It seems she's in over her head already. Her boyfriend has diagnosed problems with her Jeep resulting in her buying a new radiator, then a new hose, and now, she presumably needs a water pump. She needed a hundred dollars. She wanted it from her daddy. The converstion...
"Fred, you said if I ever needed your help to call you. Well, I'm calling you."
After a brief axplanation she asked for the hundred dollars.
"Well, Jill, I want to help you, but I'm not sure if I should. This is part of being an adult. This is what you wanted, to be on your own and take care of your issues, and the first time you run into trouble you call home."
There was a loud sniff from her end of the line that I could hear all the way from the kitchen even with the water running, and then some mumbled reply.
"But that's not the point. Paying me back is not what I'm worried about."
More sniffles and mumbling.
"Yeah, well guess what, there were plenty of times when I needed your help, and you had other more important things to do."
A long silence between them. Point made, point taken.
"I'm going to give you the money, Jill. I don't want you to pay me back, because some day I'm going to need your help. For a long time you took your mom and I for granted, and now you're beginning to see what you have given up. I just hope it was worth it. I can tell you from experience that it doesn't get any better, so you need to be careful how you treat people. Every bridge you burn is another path to help that you can't use anymore, and you're always going to need help."
Another question from Jill and and a chuckle from Fred.
"No...your bridge here is not burned, honey, but it's pretty well so charred," and then, "nothing that can't be fixed, though."
Then they both laughed...and I stood in the kitchen and cried. Somewhat happy tears.