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Clipper    Posted 12-04-2004 at 19:59:58       [Reply]  [No Email]
As we draw closer to the central day of this Holiday Season I offer this gentle reminder to one and all: Be grateful for the family and friends around you. Fate and the good Lord may intercede at any given moment and take one that you love dearly away from you.

A close relative had planned to spend this Holiday Season with myself and family. At our table will be an empty chair with his name on it. God Bless All.


DD    Posted 12-05-2004 at 08:37:30       [Reply]  [No Email]
Sorry to hear about the loss of a loved one Clipper. Thoughts and Prayers go out to you and all who knew and loved this person : )


Clipper    Posted 12-05-2004 at 08:44:49       [Reply]  [No Email]
Thanks DD....it was not a recent loss. The plans were formulated in 2002. The purpose of the post was NOT to start a Sympathy Party for myself(as I am sure I will be accused of) but merely as I stated "a gentle reminder". Have a super day and take care!

ps: I'm wearing the he77 outta that present ya sent me :^)


DD    Posted 12-05-2004 at 09:04:10       [Reply]  [No Email]
I didn't post a reply with the thoughts of sympathy either but just to say "I understand and am sending good thoughts ya'lls way" I'm sure every one of us that posts here has lost someone in our lifetime that we will always mourn for and miss. That's just part of what makes us human. Glad to hear you're enjoying the mug too, the money you sent for it was given to a homeless Vietnam Veteran Friend of mine and he was told who and where it came from. I can tell you from the tears in his eyes that it must have been like Christmas morning for him too. Take Care Clipper : )


Clipper    Posted 12-05-2004 at 09:11:34       [Reply]  [No Email]
Ya done good DD.....take care! :^)


KellyGa    Posted 12-05-2004 at 08:11:07       [Reply]  [No Email]
I sympathize (sp?) with you there. My MIL, she was my best friend passed away three years ago right after Thanksgiving, suddenly, taken in her sleep at 55. A shock to us all, so maybe that is why I feel less and less like decorating. It was three years yesterday. Ians dad is having a tough time of it too. Why does it seem like people seem to pass right before the holidays. I wonder. :( My great aunt had a stroke a week ago, and already being paralyzed 27 years ago from a storoke, it took her other side, and she requested no life support way back when, and its tough on my great uncle. He is a minister, and i know this is testing his faith. sigh.....


Alias    Posted 12-05-2004 at 06:35:51       [Reply]  [No Email]
Clipper, sorry to learn of your loss. But, keep a good though about that person and know that if he could tell you, he's say something on the order of, "Enjoy Christmas, it's not about me but about the celebration of God's gift to the world".
..........gfp


Clipper    Posted 12-05-2004 at 07:16:06       [Reply]  [No Email]
Thanks Alias....I should have been more selective about the post title. I'm NOT depressed in the least.I KNOW and BELIEVE he has gone to a better place. I'm nowhere close to wanting to be with him. The main point I wanted to make was that we should all be grateful for the friends and relatives we have.

Wonder what the in-house shrinks will do with this. :^)


Cindi    Posted 12-05-2004 at 04:45:59       [Reply]  [No Email]
I can relate. My father died on this day in 1988. I'll get a phone call from both sisters at some point today. I don't know if this ritual will ever stop.

"I just needed to talk...you know what today is."

"Yeah, I know."

The really sad part is, I lost my favorite picture of him in hurricane Charley. He's standing by his truck with his Stetson on, looking at the camera over top of his sunglasses and grinning. It was hanging in the living room and the wind knocked it off the wall. The glass broke, it got wet and all the colors ran together. So now I have a framed Picasso of my dad.

Uh oh...there's a story here.


Ferrn(Mi)    Posted 12-05-2004 at 02:50:17       [Reply]  [No Email]
Wish I could help you Clipper. I is sad when we lose someone we care about. But, even though they may be gone it was still better to have known them and shared with them this single walk through life. Continued good thoughts and an ease in your pains I pray.
Fernan & Frieda


Bob    Posted 12-04-2004 at 21:14:16       [Reply]  [No Email]
Over the past 5 years, we have lost almost the whole crew that used to join us for Holiday dinners. Her Mom and her Mom's cousin, and her Aunt, my Mom and Dad and Uncle, and our 18-year-old multiply-handicapped Son, and also an Aunt and Uncle of mine who were at a distance, and did not spend the Holidays with us.

Am I melancholy? NO! A bit sad, maybe, but also glad for tham that they have passed to a better place, as most were suffering.

Holidays are a time to be happy, and celibrate with the living, and have fond, happy remembrances of those no longer with us. If someone cannot approach the Holidays in that manner, perhaps they should seek professional help to deal with their sadness, before it gets so deep it sucks them in!


Melanie    Posted 12-05-2004 at 02:52:38       [Reply]  [No Email]
Or maybe each psyche is different in the way that they approach a holiday or a loss, and maybe this nation is a little too dependent on the psychotropic solution, and maybe it's okay to feel a little down around the holidays if you miss someone you love.
My .02 .


~Lenore    Posted 12-04-2004 at 20:30:22       [Reply]  [No Email]
I understand that.

I ran in to a local cafe Saturday a week ago to get a BLT to go. While there I saw a friend in there eating with her two daughters and their children and husbands. So as I was leaving I spoke to the mom. She appologized for not having caome by to visit. I told her oh that is Ok, I have been so busy with my neighbor lady.

She said "I meant to but my baby boy was killed the day before Thanksgiving". I was shocked, I had not known of it. She said he was killed by a 38 year old drunk driver. I remember just a week before that hearing my door bell ring. When I answered the door there was this handsome, tall red haired boy holding Top Cat in his arms. Top Cat is a great big Himalayan cat and is not subject to being picked up by just anyone.

There he was all cuddled up in this boys arms just a purring. Ryan said Mom is in the car and she asked me to pick up something you had here for her. We share books and I had a couple of hers I needed to return. That is the boy, 17 year old Ryan, who was killed instantly in that wreck.

It just broke my heart when she told me. They had just had his funeral and had gone to the cafe to eat and just try to 'go on". All I could do was hug her, cry and tell her I was so sorry that she had lost her sweet son. Words just seem so inadequate.

Losing a loved one any time is hard, but around the holidays just seems harder.


Clipper    Posted 12-04-2004 at 20:33:30       [Reply]  [No Email]
It sure helps to have family. Funny how you can all get/give strength from each other to keep on going.


jeanette    Posted 12-05-2004 at 07:18:43       [Reply]  [No Email]
i lost my dad in 85, those first few years with out them are rough, just when you think you are gonna make a smell, sound, word,etc will spark something in your memory and you just have to sit down and cry but as time goes by it still happens but you are able to smile or even laugh.


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