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Aprille    Posted 01-20-2005 at 03:11:28       [Reply]  [Send Email]
First I would like to say thank u..secondly..there is no divorce decree as we were never married..She should have NUTHIN to do with this but keeps sticking her nose in..I tend to not respond to her and ignore her..she is a martyr and I can't honor her holier than thou attitude..I have saved EVERY e-mail I have EVER recieved from both of them and I am contacting the state and the IRS today..I do not understand a man who turns around and ignores his child 366 to 365 days per year and then turns around and does this crap..the putz! I have worked only one month this year and am in school fulltime..He does not know this and I don't give him any info..I would love to be honest with him about everything but he is not in the boy's life so..PHHHHTTTTTT!! (Raspberry!!)

Patria    Posted 01-20-2005 at 07:49:28       [Reply]  [No Email]
I didn't reply before for I don't have any sound advice for you. I just want to wish you good luck on this matter. Take Care.

Willy-N    Posted 01-20-2005 at 07:23:45       [Reply]  [No Email]
Having been divorsed and paid childs support sorta been in your and his shoes this could be the other side. My problem was the EX did not work and received welfare for most of here life taking care of the child. I paid money to her and asked to have the child stay with me and she said no unless I still pay her. This went on for a while paying while taking care of the child then she wanted more money! Seized my Bank Records took me to court and expected me to pay her lawyer also to increse the amount I paid. My new wife at that time was working and the ex said you can pay more since she works too? The new wife was very upset that the ex kept tring to to mess up the marriage. She felt what she made had nothing to do with the childs support amount. Then the ex decided she wanted to send the child to summer camp and wanted me to pay that to? She was not working and needed some time for herself?? All this came to a head and she lost her case and I did not have to pay more to her. The support was raised by 25.00 a month but the 2 years remaining I had to pay was nothing compaired to what the lawyer bill was so she lost even more money. The day came the child turned 18 and the childs support ended! It took a load off my new mariage and she had to get a job now. The child was used as a lever to keep her involved with me and to give her support so she did not have to work. The whole time she was living with another man frauding welfare and living it up. The best day of my life was when I met the man who was going to marry her! I wished him luck and shook his hand!! She required him to buy a new home befor she would marry him and I could see what was going to happen. She was a cheating wife of 9 years and allways thought I was and used that for a excuse to do it herself. The new husband is being set up for a takeing she got the home from me and every thing I built up as far as home related items. She did this to men all the time when we seperated and I see no reason why she would change now. This is a story of how it can work the other way and how a child can be used as a lever and keep a foot hold in the contact and messsing with another persons life. I am not say you did this only how when the shoe is on the other foot there is a different side of the story to here. I wish you luck in your problems and was sure glad when my child suport ended and I could go on with my life. Now 20 years later my other child of 19 years is doing fine and my new wife and I are enjoying life as it should be. The Daughter of 33 years old does not talk to the mother now and they don't have anything in common. Life goes on just like on TV! Mark H.

Speaks the Gospel!    Posted 01-20-2005 at 07:48:31       [Reply]  [No Email]
Yes and right on. After our divorce, I had to travel 50 miles one way to see my kids. Alternate weekends and Wednesday eves, and two weeks in the summer. I would show up at the appointed time and the house was empty and dark. Ex forgot it was my time and took them to the movies, or camping for the weekend, or shopping for toys. I took to writing letters to the ex and calling the kids the night before to explain that I would be there to get them. Still the house was empty and dark most of the time.
I took the ex to court and the judge told her to stop the games, so then she signed the kids up for softball and football and horseback riding. I would have to take the kids 50 miles to my place and then drive them back for games and practices. etc. So I signed the kids up for activities near my home. It became a terrible nightmare. The ex plain out refused to see that they made it to the activities near my home. Then when the kids realized what she was doing, she started bribing them. "Dad, I can't go with you this weekend, Mom was given tickets for the amusement park." or Mom got me tickets to go paint ball on Sunday, so I have to be home early." On the weekend of my Grandparents'70th anniversary, I went to pick them up (after notes and calls, so I could take them to the party. The Ex sent them on a church youth group camping trip to another state. The kids later told me that she told them I had called and wasn't coming. When my daughter and her had a terrible fight and my daughter moved to live with me, the ex offered her a new car to move back. When my son got a very good summer job near my home and was going to move in with me, she actually bought him season tickets to an amusement park near her home and told him that if he stayed with her, she would pay for a skiing trip at Christmas vacation. My daughter saw through what she was doing, but unfortunately, my son didn't. My ex would spend thousands just to interfere with my visitation and make sure that the kids stayed with her. So when I convinced the IRS that I was owed the exemption, she got a bill for over $5,000.00 in taxes and penalties as well as a lien on her house. I couldn't have been happier.

Peanut    Posted 01-20-2005 at 07:11:35       [Reply]  [No Email]
Sorry if this sounds harsh but I have to write it.

Your ex-boyfriend is complete scum. Just because someone can help produce a child does not mean they should. This piece of trash wants nothing to do with your child so there is no monetary reward to him as a tax break. Tell him to screw off.

Claim your child. If he tries to claim him too, let the IRS handle his fraudulant filing. You are the legal custodian.

Good luck and keep being the parent this jerk can't.

putz????    Posted 01-20-2005 at 07:06:07       [Reply]  [No Email]
a putz (pronounced like the word "put" has a plural, same "oo" sound as "looks") in Pa dutch refers to an indoor Christmas garden, usually a small winter village type set up, sometimes incorporating a nativity set or electric train.
Why in the world would you call someone a Christmas garden???

LOL    Posted 01-20-2005 at 07:23:25       [Reply]  [No Email]
Is a Yiddish compliment..


kraigWY    Posted 01-20-2005 at 07:05:28       [Reply]  [No Email]
Simple fact, you and only you at this point desides who claims the child. That is per IRS rules. I agree, just ingor the sucker and quit worrying about it. Happy filing.

screaminghollow    Posted 01-20-2005 at 07:25:40       [Reply]  [No Email]
My experience has been that he who files first gets the exemption and the other parent gets to fight with the IRS for years. In addition, in some states, non-custodial parents can prove with the state support guidelines that they pay the bulk of the child support and are therefore entitled to the exemption. (I beat my ex-wife on that very issue and she ended up owing a severe back tax and penalty bill to the IRS) It is not something to be ignored and it isn't automatic to the custodial parent the way some posters have indicated.

KellyGa    Posted 01-20-2005 at 06:07:37       [Reply]  [No Email]
Hey Aprille, I replied below this morning, sorry a bit late. Don't give the SOB anything.

Doc    Posted 01-20-2005 at 03:14:41       [Reply]  [No Email]
"She" is inconsequential. "She" doesn't have a nickel in it. "She" has no business contacting you over this. This is between you and him.

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