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Since dear abby is going by the wayside
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In Cog Neato    Posted 08-15-2002 at 06:58:27       [Reply]  [No Email]
Problem - Country Living - Hobby or Lifestyle?

This has gotten to be a real rocky subject in our relationship and seldom is addressed in exactly those terms but seems to be the basis of many a major blowout and I'm afraid is threatening to be the last straw(country term).

One of us likes pictures of the kids with baby animals, sweet corn and tomatoes from the garden,flowers in the yard. Doesn't like weeding, castrating and worming, being tied down to nature's timetable.

One of us takes pride in doing for ourselves rather than "hiring it done" the other often finds this mickey mouse. Buying second hand and living frugally is "green and non-consumptive" to one "eccentric" or merely a pastime in the eyes of the other.

It seems as though country things are merely one more thing to teach the kids to one of us but the very foundation of teaching values and all we hold dear to the other.

I could go on and on but I hope you get the general scope of this problem and what I'm trying to say.

Have others out there run into this same diversity in viewpoints? What has been your experience? Any suggestions of how to accomadate/accept the other's take on things? Is there hope?

Don't know exactly what I want/need to hear - feel free to go off on tangents. I'm looking everywhere for some nugget of wisdom to still the waters. Thanks to all who reply!!

WallSal55    Posted 08-15-2002 at 16:26:52       [Reply]  [No Email]
Gee, I have seen couples split up because one wants to live one way, the other a completely
different way. Try to find a compromise or
common ground if possible.

WallSal55    Posted 08-15-2002 at 16:19:11       [Reply]  [No Email]
My husband and I show respect for each other's
differences. (I feel it is important to embrace
other's differences to see what we can learn. It
is just important not to force your way on their
way, and vice-versa.)
If it gets a little tense in our household, I
post a sign "Don't forget to be kind."
Sometimes our differences can stick out like a
sore thumb, but that's the rule we must remember,
no matter what.
Oh, the new writers of Ann Landers aren't doing
a very good job. Miss Ann.

Hogman    Posted 08-15-2002 at 08:41:28       [Reply]  [No Email]
Diversity in the form of proper debate is the cornerstone of knowledge. It is regretable that We sometimes get riled and speak harshly but seems since the demise of the other forum We have for the most part become more civil in actions and words which is good. We should try and do even better in the future.

Grove r    Posted 08-16-2002 at 05:45:03       [Reply]  [No Email]
Hi, Hogman, gonna get off the main subject here a little, if you you don't mind; You struck a chord when you mentioned the "other forum", and how things are more "civil" since it's demise.....well, never posted much on either forum 'till then.......just didn't seem like a spot I wanted to be......but have surely noticed the growing number of listers on this forum of late, and, outside of the "spammers", of course, all seem to have a very positive attitude towards each other. There are topics I avoid, and, there are topics I SHOULD avoid, mostly because of my inherent abilty to put my foot in my mouth.....having rambled aimlessly, and perhaps senselessly for the past few point is.....I think it is in the best interests of each of us to keep this a place where we can meet and enjoy one anothers company as if we were in each others home, for coffee, and, to that end it would appear we have been very successful......I, for one, would be very pleased with the presence of any one of you in my, pull up a chair, might have to push the cat off....have a, tea, [many kinds], milk, pop, beer, cherry whiskey, creme de mint, or just plain water...... and, above all else.....HAVE A GOODER, R.E.L.

Hogman** SPOKEN LIKE A TRUE BROTHER OF THA ESSEX    Posted 08-16-2002 at 18:39:58       [Reply]  [No Email]
ELITE. May it forever be so......

So many times I think We must have all felt the pang of "when friends fall out" and to what end?

Salmoneye...Who Are You...    Posted 08-15-2002 at 07:30:33       [Reply]  [Send Email]
And why has my Wife been talking to you, and what else did she tell ya?


I feel your pain...

DeadCarp - tolerance    Posted 08-15-2002 at 07:27:03       [Reply]  [No Email]
Years ago, our neighbor Emil stole our Tamaracks, had them sawed and and made a silo out of them. We didn't find the stumps til summer. Now, dad had a temper - and once he had the whole picture, he was pretty upset. But he didn't DO anything that i could tell..

I asked him why he didn't just go beat Emil up? He answered me this way "Well son, i could. And i could probly beat him and feel better and then we'd hate each other. And in the Spring, he wouldn't lend me his disc and in the Fall we couldn't help him thresh. See, we need our neighbors like they need us."

So being a suspicious kid, i watched and kept track. Turns out, over the years, Emil more than made that transgression up. And Dad taught me something about tolerance that day.....

C/B    Posted 08-15-2002 at 18:53:49       [Reply]  [No Email]
I think that is very wise advice. I once read that tolerance and good manners = class. It is sometimes hard to practice this but it's always worth it. Bye. B

Okie-Dokie    Posted 08-15-2002 at 17:20:25       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Wow, you should have been a philosofer, Dead Carp. I printed that one out and stuck it to ice box with my favorite John Deere magnate thingy.

DeadCarp    Posted 08-15-2002 at 19:39:45       [Reply]  [No Email]
Thanks, Okie :) Oh BTW, Dad was all screwed up - he felt sorry for anybody who stole anything, cuz the poor guy must have needed it alot more than we did. We never did get poor enough to resort to stealing. :)

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