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Almost An Empty Nester... Got the Blues...
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WallSal55 - does it get any better? EI, ladies out there?    Posted 09-03-2002 at 12:52:50       [Reply]  [No Email]
Youngest is a senior in high school. This seems like one heck of a time of life for me right now. The older daughters are in and out.
One day you are ecstatic with a little more freedom and time on your hands, the next feeling
guilty-- or not sure how to fill that time!


Dan    Posted 09-06-2002 at 08:41:22       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I went through the same thing as a single dad when my youngest graduated high school and moved out.
It was quite an adjustment not having anyone there to take care of.
But after awhile the blues passed, and I found alot of time to do the things I had been putting off.
Hang in there.......it gets better.!


Hal/WA    Posted 09-03-2002 at 23:14:56       [Reply]  [No Email]
This Fall is the first time we have not had kids in the house since we got married a long time ago. I just took my youngest daughter to college 300 miles away on Sunday and my youngest son got an apartment a couple of months ago. After raising 5 kids, I am a little lonesome. At least I see my grandsons fairly often, but their school is starting too.

Having a family is the most satisfying thing I ever did. I wish we had more kids, but there were lots of times we wondered how we were going to afford the ones we had! We have talked about the possibility of having foster children. But that sure involves a LOT of red tape.

I sure do miss the fun, the conversation, the smiles and excitement of having kids in the house. On the other hand, I sure won't miss the mess they sometimes created, and my grocery bill is bound to go down.

Thank God for cell phones and cheap long distance plans. I talk to the kids all the time. And they know that if they ask me for some help, I almost always will.

I guess I will get used to this empty nest routine, but I will probably look back on the years we raised the children as the best years of my life. Yeah, I guess I'm a little blue too.


Les...fortunate    Posted 09-03-2002 at 14:57:26       [Reply]  [No Email]
We just loved our empty nest. Son got out of H.S. and daughter got married in '89. We got our first grandchild in '91. Now have 4. Though we're the only two people who actually live here, you'd never know it. Kids' stuff all over the place. My son's kids are here almost every day and my daughter's kids are only 23 miles away so we see them a lot, too.


EIEIO    Posted 09-03-2002 at 14:50:50       [Reply]  [No Email]
My method may or may not be unorthodox but here goes, I raised my two from 3&4 years of age alone. I was lucky enough to be able to stay home with them. My son left for the Army one week after graduation my daughter was due to graduate and leave in a year. I started looking around for something to keep me busy. I found a business that was being demolished for freeway widening and bought inventory & equipment dirt cheap. It was an award business, trophies, engraving plaques etc. Didn't know a thing about it but I was going to learn. Found a location and set up shop, what a mess anyway met Dennis, he came to fix the air compressor he never left, thank God and between the two of us we finally got the business up and running. By the time my daughter left I was so busy that when I came home I just dropped dead in the bed.

That was my way of coping but living in Houston at the time jobs were plentiful and opportunities were knocking on the door. If I was living in the country than I really don't know what I would have done.

Maybe I was a terrible person but I never did feel guilty when it was finally "my" time. I talked with my other "empty nest" friends and they said they loved the chance to just be an individual who could enjoy their own time and do their own thing.

Remember that door is a revolving door when they leave, they do visit, you have a washing machine, a dryer, a refrigerator and stove plus that wonderful account at the bank.

You will have down days but as each day passes you will enjoy it more and more and there will come a time when they ask you to babysit and you will have to say, "gee I have already made plans for the night".


momma Jan    Posted 09-03-2002 at 13:15:00       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Oh I understand those feelings.........Iv raised 8 kids and down to the last two who are in highschool.Hubby has always asked what we will do with out the kids home. When they are out at night I think Gosh its just too quiet around here and I really dont look forward to spending the rest of my life with no kids running around. Then they return home with friends following close behind and that thought quickly leaves.
I had this conversation with a older gentle man the other day and he reassured me that its not as bad as I think its going to be. He says Ill find plenty to do with my time and then there is the
GRANDKIDS!
Now I have three of those so far, worst part of that was this spring when mom and dad moved 350 miles away taking the little ones with them. Ah but the visits to Grandma and Grandpa's are a wonderful thing.
So I guess we will just have to look at it as just a longer break from the kids then what we are used to at this time.
Still I hate those quiet nights.
have a good day


WallSal55    Posted 09-03-2002 at 17:22:30       [Reply]  [No Email]
Thanks, everyone. My roller coaster ride of
emotions, etc. is normal then. It's just the
keepin' busy part, I have trouble with at times.
Not let the mind wander, etc.


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