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Retired Household Question
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EIEIO    Posted 09-05-2002 at 09:35:23       [Reply]  [No Email]
I have a question again. Dennis and I both "retired" at the same time, moved to the country. How come the wife still has to cook, clean, wash clothes, feed critters, shop, etc. and the husband retires? When does the wife get to retire? Do we have to wait until we are dancing with the angels?

Maybe our household is different I don't know, but as I was folding clothes today and Dennis was resting his eyeballs I started thinking about that. I am not complaining I am just wondering!!!

lazy Al    Posted 09-05-2002 at 17:44:37       [Reply]  [No Email]

Dear fellow retirees,

It is important for men to remember that as women grow older it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as they did when they were younger. When men notice this, they should try not to yell. Let me relate how I handle the situation.

When I chucked my job and took early retirement a year ago, it became necessary for my wife to get a full-time job both for extra income and for health insurance benefits that we need. She was a trained lab tech when we met thirty some years ago and was fortunate to land a job at the local medical center as a phlebotomist.

It was shortly after she started working at this job that I noticed that she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from fishing, hunting, or golf about the same time she gets home from work. Although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says that she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts supper. I try not to yell at her when this happens. Instead, I tell her to take her time. I understand that she is not as young as she used to be. I just tell her to wake me when she finally does get supper on the table.

She used to wash and dry the dishes as soon as we finished eating. It is now not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after supper. I do what I can by reminding her several times each evening that they aren't cleaning themselves. I know she appreciates this, as it does seem to help her get them done before she goes to bed.

Our washer and dryer are in the basement. When she was younger, my wife used to be able to go up and down the stairs all day and not get tired. Now that she is older she seems to get tired so much more quickly. Sometimes she says she just can't make another trip down those steps. I don't make a big issue of this. As long as she finishes up the laundry the next evening I am willing to overlook it. Not only that, but unless I need something ironed to wear to the Monday's lodge meeting or to Wednesday's or Saturday's poker club or to Tuesday's or Thursday's bowling or something like that, I will tell her to wait until the next evening to do the ironing. This gives her a little more time to do some of those odds and ends things like shampooing the dog, vacuuming, or dusting.

Also, if I have had a really good day fishing or golfing, this allows her to gut and scale the fish or clean my golf clubs at a more leisurely pace. She is starting to complain a little occasionally. Not often, mind you, but just enough for me to notice. For example, she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. In spite of her complaining, I continue to try to offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any, if you know what I mean.

When doing simple jobs she seems to think she needs more rest periods than she used to have to take. A couple of weeks ago she said she had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I overlook comments like these because I realize it's just age talking. In fact, I try to not embarrass her when she needs these little extra rest breaks. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. I tell her that as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me and take her break by the hammock so she can talk with me until I fall asleep.

I could go on and on, but I think you know where I'm coming from. I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support my wife on a daily basis. I'm not saying that the ability to show this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find it impossible. No one knows better than I do how frustrating women can become as they get older. My purpose in writing this is simply to suggest that you make the effort. I realize that achieving the exemplary level of showing consideration I have attained is out of reach for the average man. However guys, even if you just yell at your wife a little less often because of this article, I will consider that writing it was worthwhile.

Bill W    Posted 09-06-2002 at 05:29:46       [Reply]  [No Email]
Al, you have a real talent for putting thought to paper. Thanks for the laughs. It made my day.

Gimpleg Fagon    Posted 09-05-2002 at 13:16:22       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Well EIEIO, Burrhead is Right1. That's the way it is and that's the way it's suppsed to be. How come you're always so down on poor ol' Dennis? He seems like a right nice sort of fella. Now you know you got a good deal goin' You got a better life than most every female girl there is any place. Just think about them female girls a living in them arab countries and havin' to wear them tents and stuff every time they goes any place. So just settle down a little and quit complaining. Remember, ol' Burrhead, Hogman, Bob/Ont, gove r, F14, and Jake and some others is got all the answers, so if ya get confused just ask one of 'em and they'll get ya back on track.

EIEIO    Posted 09-05-2002 at 15:14:38       [Reply]  [No Email]
Me thinks ol' Burrhead, Hogman, Bob/Ont, gove r, F14, and Jake and some others may be the confused ones. We labor, from the day the kids are born til the day we is no longer here. You guyz justa think it is our job - ha!! I ain'ta complain'n I was justa askin. I do it cuz I love Dennis plus if I don't do it who will???? hmmmmmmmmmmmmm

bob    Posted 09-05-2002 at 11:06:46       [Reply]  [No Email]
You might consider yourself lucky. I just had both eyes done cataract and doctor won,t let me lift over 10 lbs no driving at first . went back last week and told him I felt like back in time just like the indians lived he asked me if should prescribe more of same Told him no as wanted to do something

Dennis    Posted 09-05-2002 at 09:57:02       [Reply]  [No Email]

Burrhead    Posted 09-05-2002 at 10:17:00       [Reply]  [No Email]
LMAO but it's sposed to be

Burrhead    Posted 09-05-2002 at 09:46:37       [Reply]  [No Email]
That's simple E-O. It's a biological thing.

Since men folks is pre-programmed to do hunter & gather work the wimmin folks is sposed to give us time to gather our thoughts on what we want to hunt today.

Sometimes the man's toughest thought for the day is "what was I doing yestidy afore I come in the house and whur did I leave it"

Ron/Pa    Posted 09-05-2002 at 12:38:47       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Men is hunters, Wimmen is gatherers!!
While I'm out huntin, the OTHER HALF gathers up the clothe's that I dropped all over the floor and washes them.
Now go ahead and issue them orders ( I dare Ya)

Ron/Pa I WOULDN'T TOUCH THIS ONE, NO WAY, NO HOW, HUH-UH,,NOOOOOOO!!!!!!!,    Posted 09-05-2002 at 09:39:44       [Reply]  [No Email]

Dennis    Posted 09-05-2002 at 09:47:51       [Reply]  [No Email]
Hi Ron,
Are you anywhere near Bethlehem Pa? I was born there and lived in Hellertown Pa.

Ron/Pa    Posted 09-05-2002 at 12:26:35       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Dennis, we are about 75 miles northeast of Hellertown, We are 35 miles due north of Harrisburg straight up the susquehanna river.
I get through Hellertown now and then on some of my truck runs.
It's a royal shame about the collaps of the A.B.E area, the jobs sure have left in a hurry and the farmland is going fast to the Yuppies from over east in the city.
Ya ever get back east to visit, yell and we'll do the pig roast.

Ron/Pa SORRYYYYY,    Posted 09-05-2002 at 12:28:15       [Reply]  [No Email]

007 ---AH'HA there ole Sherry chaser    Posted 09-05-2002 at 11:51:01       [Reply]  [No Email]
You're avoidin tha question!

Now for My part, tis refered to as NOT MANS WORK!

When She helps Me sort,load critters,drive tha truck in tha hay field,move equipment etc & etc's ,thats just HELPIN OUT! Sides, SHE needs tha exercise! Tha Doc said so!

Now, whats Your excuse????????

Dennis    Posted 09-05-2002 at 21:07:29       [Reply]  [No Email]
Tis a far nobler thing I do!

Hogman*** WELL SPOKEN SIR    Posted 09-06-2002 at 04:37:04       [Reply]  [No Email]

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