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Please someone, I need encourgment before I back out!!
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Jenn    Posted 12-06-2002 at 10:08:28       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Ok, So heres the deal. My husband and I just got a possible offer of a lifetime. To come and work at a place that has 1,000 acres, very primitive but done correctly, 100% self sufficent, Runs a program to teach others who to be self-sufficent, is less than 50 miles from the area my husband and I have chosen to be our ideal location to live. The guy who runs it is awsome he has even been on CNN and Connie Chung about all the work he has done, but he is so out of the loop he told me he never even saw the show. He just put out a book that is on the bestseller list. It is Perfect. We will get to live there in exchange that I cook for the small group of campers and my husband helps out around the land. But I am terrified!!!! Yes I have always dreamed of this. To live totally off the land, but I am so scared. What if I cant do it. What if I am totally a fraud. I am freaking out about this. He called me last night. We are suspose to leave in Jan. for a two week visit. To make sure it will work. But that is not helping much. I'm scared my dream is going to just walk away because I'm scared. I have two daughters one 7 and one 2, It would be different if it were just my husband and I, but we have children. So failure can hurt us more. Plus our lease is up Feb 15 and we have to give notice by Jan 15 so there is pressure from here as well, not to menten our families think we are freaks for feeling this way.I am scared to walk away from a life that is all I have ever known, even for one I have always wanted.

Daphne    Posted 12-07-2002 at 18:44:55       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I hope you go for it! I raised my daughter in the woods and country, sometimes without water and electricity. We always coped . And we learned so much! Sometimes we lived off the land, other times, not. My daughter is grown, and resourceful and a very fine human being. Living close to nature is the way we were meant to live. There is rarely a dull moment. You would be doing your children a favor! What more they will learn about life when they nurse a hurt animal back to health or feeding the chickens and gathering the eggs, than sitting in front of the boob tube watching what society calls daily life! To sit around the fire in storms and play games or read aloud. Drawing. Mushroom hunting. Gardening. Cooking together. Reading before bed. Sitting outside in the morning, hearing birds, not cars. Not being afraid of the dark. Watching meteor showers.
I hope for you and your family, you decide to choose a fufilling life. Love and Light. Daphne

Renee    Posted 12-07-2002 at 18:27:28       [Reply]  [No Email]
Jenn, will you have time to spend with your daughters? If you do, you will be teaching them valuable lessons. And one thing I've found, small children don't miss money. They will look back on this as an adventure.

joan ark    Posted 12-07-2002 at 09:27:15       [Reply]  [Send Email]
If this is what you have been waiting for don't think of your kids as an obstacle. I moved into a tent on 80 rough acres 7 years ago while my husband finished up his job for 6months that was 100 miles away. We had 3 kids then 3,6 and 8 a years old. We just pretended we were on a long camping trip. What better way to raise a family then really living in the woods. Oh, my in laws were somewhat upset! We had fun, planted a garden, hiked and learned to cook on campfire, even cakes and pies. As far as I'm concerened people who live in fear live a boring life. Make a commitment if you want to go and agree that you will stay a year. Look at all the experience you'll gain! Life should be full of adventure. Invest in a good back carrier for your toddler. Forget the families ideas, they are probably too insecure to do anything different. joan

Maggie/TX    Posted 12-06-2002 at 21:39:58       [Reply]  [No Email]
Jenn, you should get in touch with your landlord now and see if he will work with you on the timeline for the two week trial thing. He should appreciate that you are keeping him posted as to your status as soon as you know about it and will be likely to work with you, and that will ease that pressure.

What is scaring you most? The living totally off the land part or the leaving everything familiar for a new place part? Think it through real good and pray about it, but most of all get rid of the fear! It's ok to not want to go somewhere or do something, but fear can be crippling. I am by no means a Bible thumper, but I do believe that fear is of the devil and can eat up all the good things in life if you let it. Decide what you really want out of life and then DO it whatever it is, but make sure that FEAR had nothing to do with your choice or you'll regret it from now on.

There's my 2 cents worth. :) Good luck!

Ana    Posted 12-06-2002 at 13:56:10       [Reply]  [No Email]
When I have a big decision to make, I do the "what if": "What if I don't do this, then what will happen. "What if we do this, then what will happen." What if it doesn't work out, then what will happen". You get the idea. I can tell you from my experience that when living off the land, the woman has to work mighty hard--physically hard, with no end in site, many times all alone with your labors. Ask yourself if you can handle it. After all your questions, make your decision, then don't look back, just be determined. This is when being hard-headed helps. Good luck.

Salmoneye    Posted 12-06-2002 at 13:19:06       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Only you can determine if you are a poseur (poser)...

If there is anything I have learned in 40 years it is that if you want something bad enough...AND...are willing to work for it...You will get it...

Good luck...I hope you realize your dream!

H. Arnold Merklethrope    Posted 12-06-2002 at 12:52:49       [Reply]  [No Email]
I don't see what the big deal is. You got two weeks to check it out! If it's what you want, do it and if not, don't do it. If you do it and it does not work out, then do someting else. It's as simple as that!

It sounds like    Posted 12-06-2002 at 11:52:01       [Reply]  [No Email]
you'll have a leg up on someone who goes out and buys some land and jumps in headfirst.

One thing I've learned is that if ya HAVE to do something you'll figure out a way to do it.

The big question is do you really WANT to do it. You HAVE to answer that question first. If you answer yes to that question then figure out what the worst case senario would be and decide if you could live with that.

As far as your kids go, I'm sure that whatever happens you'll find a way to feed and cloth them. Sometimes I think one of the best things we do for our children is to allow them the opportunity to learn from our mistakes.

Good Luck
And don't look back.

Rachel    Posted 12-06-2002 at 11:40:17       [Reply]  [No Email]
Hey Jenn, I live in the Ozarks on a road we call a car killer, gravel and steep. We bought this lil piece of heaven 3 yrs. ago. We heat with wood, mostly. Cut our own and stockpile it. Raise chickens for eggs and meat, some geese and ducks, also. Just starting goats this past year for milk and meat. I'm starting bees in the Spring. MY husband works in his painting business-goes 80 miles each way. I stay home and do the farm stuff. Feed and water and such. If I can do it at 47, you can! I gripe like everyone when I have to go out in the cold, but I wouldn't trade it for anything, even being snowed in right now. LOL Go for it! It's a great life. Rachel

JIM WTX    Posted 12-06-2002 at 11:27:11       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Well, ya know back in the 1600's the first Pilgrims left the only life they had ever knew and sailed way over here to America, and most of them that did'nt die from sickness were able to live off the land. Those people had it a whole lot rougher than you or I, but they survived and went on to do quite well, and so will you.

dig    Posted 12-06-2002 at 10:26:09       [Reply]  [No Email]
What's the old saying? Follow your dreams and the rest will come.
If you have a 2 week trial run, see if your current landlord will let you extend your lease by 2 months or 3 months, and go try it.

Fawteen    Posted 12-06-2002 at 10:25:11       [Reply]  [No Email]
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Giving up your lease for a 2 week 'trial period' is pretty scarey. If you decide it's not for you, can you get back to where you are?

Be realistic about this 'adventure'. Living off the land is mostly hard work. If you like what you're doing, then you may not call it work. If you hate what you're doing, then you'll be miserable no matter how many gorgeous sunsets you see.

If you're reasonably sure no one will go cold or hungry, go for it. Worst that can happen is you'll have to start over and find a traditional 'job' somewhere.

If it requires burning bridges behind you, you'd better be damned sure you're ready for the consequences.

Phred MN    Posted 12-06-2002 at 11:31:56       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Well said, VERY hard work and no time for relaxin. Hopefully time to spend with the kids. Remember, the guy that wrote the book probably is not living off the land. Good luck if you decide to do it.

LH    Posted 12-06-2002 at 10:28:37       [Reply]  [No Email]
I'll add an amen to what Fawteen said. Pray hard on the matter and go with whatever your gut tells ya to do. I've quit jobs and everything else on the spur of the moment. I do have a few regrets in life but if it's oyur dream then go for it and dont look back

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