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mojo    Posted 02-11-2003 at 07:54:32       [Reply]  [No Email]
my seven year old daughter wants her ears pierced. all but one in her class (first grade!) has them and she doesn't want to be the last. seven seems awfully young, i remember the rows my sisters went thru for theirs and they were 13! am i too old-fashioned?

now if was the boy asking.....i've got a real good answer for that!


Donna from Mo    Posted 02-11-2003 at 14:06:56       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I just don't see a problem with little girls having pierced ears. It's cute, I think. In fact, in the past 2 1/2 years since I re-entered the work force, I've actually gotten used to seeing men with pierced ears, and think nothing of it. That's pretty good, considering what an old fuddy-duddy I am. I still haven't gotten used to the pierced eyebrows and lips though! Ewwwwww.


cowgirlj    Posted 02-11-2003 at 12:58:20       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Mojo, I am amused that just about all the responses are from men,(that is, asuming they aren't hiding indentities for internet safety reasons). How does your spouse feel about this? (Again, asuming). As a parent, only you know the emotional state of mind of your child, so just how badly is this situation effecting her, if at all? Isn't school great! Sure changes our children. Sometimes in ways we don't expect.
j


mojo    Posted 02-11-2003 at 13:49:31       [Reply]  [No Email]
wife had hers done at age 13, and she's just as bewildered as me (we had kids late in life). the girl has matured remarkably in the last 6 months, both emotionally and physically, like a weed! jimbob nailed my main concern, outcast and all. it's just that i'm not really ready to lose my sweet little girl yet and this is just another step in that direction. has to happen sometime tho. and we'll be sure to not get a "mall job"! that was a good point! the leather punch tho.....hmmmm;)


Les...fortunate    Posted 02-11-2003 at 12:10:44       [Reply]  [No Email]
My youngest granddaughter, now 5, had her ears pierced when she was an infant. That was her mother's choice, obviously. I guess she was just so happy to have a girl after three boys, she wanted everybody to know for sure that she was one.
My wife, on the other hand, is now 55 and has never in her life worn earrings or seen the need for them.


Jimbob    Posted 02-11-2003 at 11:47:29       [Reply]  [No Email]
It is the little incidents in early life that sometimes mean so much in later years (like trust). Let her get the ears pierced, it is not good making her feel like an outcast in her 'tiny community of peers'.


Maggie/TX    Posted 02-11-2003 at 13:33:16       [Reply]  [No Email]
Well said, Jimbob, and I totally agree. If she's got her heart set on pierced ears and is responsible enough to do the cleaning/medicating/turning part of it faithfully, then I would take her to have it done. And when she gets to be 12 or 13 and wants to dye her hair, I'd let her do that, as long as it's not blue, purple or pink. I would even help her with it. Then, in a year or two when she's sick of the dye-job, I'd help her get it back to normal color. I did all of the above with my daughter and she is now 19 and a fine young lady, going to college and fixing to join the Navy.


Play by 'ear'...    Posted 02-11-2003 at 18:28:27       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Maggie: Right you are, [in my book, of course].
Mojo:
A girl is woman from day one. Just like a boy wants to grow up to be like his dad.
A little make-up? yeah, why not. An earing...?
I mean, I see this stories on tv, movies, and also learned from friends about their kids dying from horrible ilnesses before they had a chance to 'live'.
Just want my kids to live their live to their fullest. [I wished I had Cindi's storytelling quality :-)]
Freddy, my 28y/old son had his hair long until he went to the marines. He's going back to direct the transportation dept. of Amelia Island Plantation in FL.
Christina, my 23y/old daughter pierced one hole more than she should have; she's now the public relations director for a big construction comp. here in PR.
Beny-Lou, hmmm...she's 15y/old, she wants her navel pierced....but I don't think so. There are limits, I'll give you that much...
But if you're talking about an earing? I would say let her do it. [Almost] every woman has one, or two.
Take a moment or two to evaluate your feelings and concerns about her 'motives' and move on accordingly.
Although, if you decide to allow her to get it done, you should help her take care of it until you see it's 'cured'. She's old enough to know 'what she wants', but not old enough to 'know better'.

PS: forgive my spelling; I'm in a rush, didn't check my dictionay:-)




It ain't a monster Tatoo...would draw a line at that..Jimbob nt    Posted 02-11-2003 at 11:49:56       [Reply]  [No Email]
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Lazy Al    Posted 02-11-2003 at 09:35:05       [Reply]  [No Email]
One of our boys wanted it once . I said sure ,
By time I got back with the leather punch set on the biggest setting .He had changed his mind ,
Darn it all anyway . Kids They dont' know what they want .


screaminghollow    Posted 02-11-2003 at 09:21:25       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Some cultures are different than others. My wife had my daughter's ears pieced by the pediatrician when the daughter was 5 months old. Daughter is nine and a half (going on twenty) now and loves having all the different earings to wear. Never had a problem with infection. Hasn't affected her adversely in any way. I didn't see any problem with it although we caught some grief from a few relatives. My oldest daughter wanted pieced ears when she was about ten and my sister took her and three neices and they all got it done at the same time.


Tom A    Posted 02-11-2003 at 09:07:08       [Reply]  [No Email]
I think parents don't say "no" enough when they should.

A 7 year old (or 10 or 15) just isn't responsible to make some decisions that have permanent repercussions, and it is the parent's job to say "yes" if they know something is alright, and "no" if there's any question in their own mind. That's tough, but being a parent is tough.

Looking back, I said no a lot (I always worried it was too much) but both kids have turned out just great, and have actually thanked us for it. One time I knew in my heart I should have said "no" but wimped out and said "go ahead," it turned in to a disaster (wrecked truck, nobody hurt thank God).

So if YOU think it is too young to have earings, then it doesn't matter what SHE thinks (or anybody else), you are the parent. Explain "why not" once, if you care to, set a goal (when you're 13, if you still want them...) but say NO if that's what you think.

just my 2 cents,
tom


Berry    Posted 02-11-2003 at 08:57:45       [Reply]  [No Email]
What seven year old knows anything about life? I'm old fashioned too, my girls didn't till they left home. No tatoos either. Fortunately they never did get those even later. But, you know, I see all over the place babies as young as 5 days old with ear-rings. Those can't be comfortable to sleep on all the time. How do they say, mom, this hurts, can't we take it out for awhile? I think it's next to abuse to do babies. Is it necessary? Is it really THAT cute? Poor kids. But that's old-fashioned me, I guess.


Gary, Mt. Hermon, La    Posted 02-11-2003 at 08:15:07       [Reply]  [No Email]
Father of two girls, I went thru this twice, I say let em do it as long as they are aware of the maintenance required to prevent infection and closing of the piercings. If she's willing to accept that responsibility then let it be.... the worse that can happen is that they'll get infected and close when healed from the infection. This happened to my second and she was 10 before I allowed it again.


Ludwig    Posted 02-11-2003 at 08:11:14       [Reply]  [No Email]
Well lesse, I was 23 I think when I got my first, and 24 for the second and I don't think I need any more. One is infected right now (I dunno, been good for 3 years, why now?) so I'm not big on piercing. For note, mine are both cartalge piercing way up in my left ear.

Anyway, I remember in 2nd grade when the first boy I ever saw got his ear pierced. Trent, sombody. I can't remember his last name. It made a big stir at the time, this was like '82 or so. Most of the girls must have had theirs done by then...


Stan J    Posted 02-11-2003 at 09:08:15       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Let them pierce. Anything to do with moral or good parental instruction they don't have a sayso. Parents should be the authority, not just a friend. I believe you can be both. It's scary for the parents but the kids have to learn to accept the concequences of their decisions. Live and learn, we hope!


Ludwig    Posted 02-11-2003 at 08:18:09       [Reply]  [No Email]
Oh, another thing. My first was done with the gun at the store in the mall. Terrible lot of pain, remember where I got it...
Second was done with a hollow needle in a piercing shop. Lots less pain, lots more blood, lots better follow up.
Many professional piercers won't do lower lobe piercing but many will. I'd much rather have it done by somebody who's had training in the body and cleanlyness, and response to problems than some dopy chick at the mall.
The professional piercing cost about $50 as opposed to about $25 at the mall but was overall a much better experience.


Bombi    Posted 01-15-2006 at 16:04:45       [Reply]  [No Email]
I think kids should be able to pierce their ears when they are old enough to be responsible for their own care. As a father who has pierced ears and wears at least one earring dailyI could hardly say no to my two boys. The oldest never pierced his and the youngest wore earrings for a while.


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