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They Dropped a Bomb on us, so we dropped one on them...
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Lynch in E.TX    Posted 02-13-2003 at 03:15:23       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Wife's parents told us they have to move into our front pasture ( 3 of the nicest, driest acres) and had the surveyor out we dropped a BOMB on them and told them that we are leaving for 12 acres on the other side of town...Wife's dad is the nastiest, crankiest, complaining old man I have ever met, and we will have no part of sharing or dream place with them. You used to be their place until we paid them $125K because they said they needed a smaller place that would be easier to take care of at their what do they do...we let them stay until they found a place, and now it bit us in the butt because they say they can't find a place they like and are buying a $60K mobile home and moving onto our place...AIN'T HAPPENING. We are going to met the real estate gal in a few hours to make a deal on 12 acres on a quieter county road about 7 or 8 miles northwest of here...still in Kirbyville area...but away from them...they can have this place back...they actually had the nerve to tell us that WE are putting THEM in a bind by wife is totally embarrassed and ashamed, and I feel for her...but she is on my side 100%...Imagine living in a place for over 30 years and not having any friends....that's her dad...never seen anything like parents were always visiting or being visited by friends (and playing cards, going out to eat, etc...with friends), but not her parents...her dad is a two-faced jerk, that only talks behind your back and NEVER stops complaining... or insulting me or his daughter...If he is with me, he complains about my brother-in-law...if he's with my brother-in-law, he complains about me...And they think we want them living 50 yards away from us??? Not over my dead body even...Sooooo...we get to start from scratch on new wooded acreage, with ALOT to do before spring hits in a few more weeks...we'll never make it...but we will give it our best shot. 12 acres is better than 25 with them on it...anyday...Please say a prayer for us...we have waited too long and worked too hard to have our dream place we are out the door...asap. In other words...someone else is going to get to enjoy all the hard work I have put into this place this winter...makes me sick to my stomach...but if you knew my wife's dad, you would leave too. We've had an idea that this was coming for the last month or so...just hoped it wouldn't come to this...My father-in-law informed my wife(after we told them we were leaving), that I am a lazy husband, and just sit around on my butt all day and do nothing(and now he gets to enjoy all the work I've done, BY MYSELF, on this place all winter...and that's ALOT! And I'M 50% disabled! And he sits in MY living room and reads all day while I work, but I"M THE LAZY ONE)...and that he has never really liked her (she's his youngest daughter, for Christ's sake...and doesn't have a mean bone in her body)...and then went on to say that I cuss all the time and that he never does...My wife started laughing...Said they should have sold the place to someone I wish they would have sold to someone else. I'll keep everyone informed of our progress on our new place...we should be able to get into it don't forget to tune in to "As My Stomach Turns" for more episodes of country living with the Lynchs' in East Texas...(I sincerely hope that this makes all of your lives seem just a little bit easier today) Lynch in E.TX nightmare

Jim Adams    Posted 02-13-2003 at 19:20:41       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I've read this 3 times and unless I missed something in the first act of this play the only
was they can do what you say they are planning to do is if you let them.
There are lawyers just salavating to get their hands on a deal like this. Give one a call. You
are going to lose friends anyway so why not keep your property?


JanO    Posted 02-13-2003 at 12:11:45       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I'm not sure I read this right... It's YOUR 3 acre front pasture, on YOUR property? They have already started set up on a new mobile home to go on YOUR property? Are they thinking that they are going to buy that piece from you, or is it 3 acres that belongs to somebody else?
I just don't see how they could get permits if it's NOT theirs to claim ownership to, unless you give them permission. I sell real estate for a living and I've never heard of such a thing going through. If it is your 3 acres, and they are planning on staying there, after you sell, are you going to sub divide it and then sell it to them seperate so they can have the 3 acres?

steve II JD4000    Posted 02-13-2003 at 11:44:15       [Reply]  [Send Email]
yeah.. I have some like problem like that here too. some of it my wife does't agree with. as soon I get it all clear out and MOVE!! say 300 miles if I could.

Errin OH    Posted 02-13-2003 at 10:38:47       [Reply]  [No Email]
I have read this twice now and must be missing something. You bought the place. Now either you had a lot of cash or are makin some nice payments. And your walkin???? I would hope you mean "Give me my 128K back you old @#$% I'm outta here......"

Jim (Mi)    Posted 02-13-2003 at 09:35:15       [Reply]  [No Email]
Gez Lynch, I though my outlaws were a pain. :>) I am gonna have to go give em both a hug and say thx for being so cool.

Good Lord!    Posted 02-13-2003 at 09:28:10       [Reply]  [No Email]
If ya don't stop them now, dont ya think they'll come squat on your new place as well?
I know I'm not in the situation you are, but I'd do something to stop them.
Maybe tell the county not to issue a permit. At least that would stop them from getting power and phone hooked up.
You mentioned your dad would have given them a piece of his mind, maybe you should follow in his footsteps.

Ron/PA    Posted 02-13-2003 at 09:03:17       [Reply]  [No Email]
How about saying "OH NO YOU'RE NOT!!!" Darned if I would let anyone move in where they weren't invited. I'm afraid I wouldn't have to worry about holidays, when You tell them to kiss off, they will avoid you.
Somedays ya just gotta be a bigger a-hole than they are.

Spence - This isn't a problem    Posted 02-13-2003 at 07:55:46       [Reply]  [No Email]
You paid 128K for the place, you went to your lawyer to draw up a deed, the deed is in your hands. Anyone doing anything on your property without your permission is trespassing. You can either:

1/ call the cops now
2/ tell them you'll call the cops after a given time then do it. This is risjky has you have you explain the allowance of time.

Case closed.

Larry    Posted 02-13-2003 at 07:55:27       [Reply]  [Send Email]

Man that really sux. I have about the same kind of inlaws too. Not so much the MIL though. I finally just pointed at the road and said,git! Oh they left alright,but there was alot of noise involved with it. Since then they only show up here every so often and call first before they come.

Nathan(GA)    Posted 02-13-2003 at 07:45:43       [Reply]  [No Email]
Sorry to hear this Lynch. My wife and I are looking for some land now. Both our families have land we could build on, but we want our own. We've seen too many situations similar to yours.

Good Luck on the land search. And Good Luck on the baby if yall choose that.

Alberta Mike    Posted 02-13-2003 at 07:27:02       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Wow, that's quite a story. And to happen to a Massey Harris man to top it all off! After reading your episode, I'll never complain to my wife about her mother again. The things she does to irk me are small potatoes compared to what's happening down there. As a matter of fact, I might even consider having her over for supper this weekend. Hope it all works out OK for you and your family.

Gary, Mt, Hermon, La.    Posted 02-13-2003 at 06:27:29       [Reply]  [No Email]
Well Lynch my wife and I married in 1983 and then we welcomed her Dad to live with us in 1984 cause he was deaf and had lost is sight to Glaucoma and could not care for himself. He lived with us for almost ten years, before he got to be too incapacitated to stay alone and we all agreed that he should be in a nursing home, where he died about 4 years later. So in 1999 my mother in law who is also deaf finally looses her sight from a progressive disease calles Ushers Syndrome, so we invite her to live with us because it's impossible for her to live alone. They had been divorced for many many years. She still lives with us, I just couldn;t stand to see these people in the dire situations they were in. Both of them, fatherinlaw and motherinlaw were and are not easy to have around, but my wife and I both feel that it is the proper thing to do to help our elders in their time of need. It's just how we were raised. We both hope our own children would resopond in a similar manner if and when we come to a time when we can no longer care for ourselves or feel the need to be close to our children in case we do need them in our older years.

Salmoneye    Posted 02-13-2003 at 03:46:55       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Forgive me if I missed something here, but...

You say you already paid them $125K?...And now they are staying?...You ARE getting your money back, right?

If Not...SELL it to someone else!...You won't get to stay, but they won't either...

Sorry...but I am not above despite when it is called for...

Oh Yeah....    Posted 02-13-2003 at 04:56:42       [Reply]  [Send Email]
....darn right we're gettin our money back....that's why they said we put them in a bind...because they went out and bought a $60K 4 bed 2 bath mobile home without asking us they have to pay for it without our 125K....they think they are gonna get someone else to buy it that will let them buy the spot in front....they're NUTS! I told my wife that I refuse to EVER have anything to do with them again...EVER! NO CHRISTMAS NO BIRTHDAYS NO NOTHING! I sure wish my Dad was still alive to see this...he'd give them a piece of his mind....all I could do was cuss up a storm and tell them we are moving out asap. What cracks me up is that he just joined the church for the first time in his life (at age 74), and I guess he thinks if he goes to confession he can do what he wants. My wife thinks they don't care about us because we can't have kids, and all the rest of her siblings gave them wife lost her falopian(spell?) tubes before we could have any, and now we have to try the test tube way if we want any kids.....she can carry one...just can't make one the easy, and fun way....The whole thing family is gonna flip when they hear this,,,her dad will never be able to live this down...he will only talk to us if we don't say soon as we open our mouths, he walks off bitching that we never listen....I want to throttle him... Lynch

Bob/Ont    Posted 02-13-2003 at 09:35:30       [Reply]  [Send Email]
You can have enough trouble dealing with good relatives. You folks have to get out of there.
Later Bob

Tom A -- I gotta agree    Posted 02-13-2003 at 03:58:29       [Reply]  [No Email]
I just assumed they were buying it back, and in fact it should be for the 125K plus improvements you've made...put it on the market otherwise. That's not spite, just taking care of your family (as opposed to your extended family).

I'm afraid this isn't an uncommon scenario, though. I have a good friend who *loves* his father and they got along great until the son bought the farm. Ever since, everything he does is the wrong way or the wrong time or just shouldn't have been done. Even though they're close, he has a hard time swallowing the grief he gets. His advice to me was "never ever buy your folks' farm while they're still alive."

good luck,

I Could Tell You Stories....    Posted 02-13-2003 at 04:43:57       [Reply]  [Send Email]
...for instance a few weeks ago I am bushhogging and he stops me after 3 acres with no problem, and tells me he needs to "adjust" the top link....well an hour later I look back and see that the top link is gone....and it is somewhere in the grass on about 3 more acres....he adjusted it so much the threads weren't in far enough and it came undone, and I told him that it was going to be too loose and he said no....of course it was my fault when he told everyone else...but he confessed to me alone, that it was his fault...that cost me 38 bucks cuz I don't have a metal detector, and with my leg I can't walk it. Lynch

Jimbob    Posted 02-13-2003 at 05:34:22       [Reply]  [No Email]
You & your wife simply do not need it- bad for your relationship. Smart move & move on. Too bad you can't move 1000 miles away. Funny how people, not animals are the biggest pain in the but on the planet.

Salmoneye    Posted 02-13-2003 at 04:53:17       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Are you getting your money back?

Do you own the property outright now?

Just wondering...

Lynch    Posted 02-13-2003 at 05:06:03       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Getting the money back haven't slept at all....going to meet the real estate gal in 30 minutes...thank goodness I don't sleep much anyway....which is unusual for someone that takes as much morphine(prescription, of course) as I do everyday....just have never been a sleeper....and it's real easy to stay awake when you are ready to explode...My wife says she is just "numb"....she could sleep thru a to wake her up so she can get ready....this 12 acres is really neat, so we should be OK in a few months...just gonna be hard getting a garden all have a good day now....Lynch

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