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Jess    Posted 03-05-2003 at 11:06:53       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I moved to the country almost two years ago and have had a terrible time adjusting. I am feeling very isolated. Is there any remedy to this? 4 months after my move a had back surgery. Now my son and I share my car so there are days at a time when I am stuck in the house with nothin to do but clean or other housework. I love my house but hate where I am at. My husband just wants to hear none of it. Any helpful ideas would be great.


Catherine    Posted 11-27-2004 at 00:52:12       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Hi. I got desperate and decided to look on the internet for ways to adjust to the country life. I grew up in cities, I love cities. I do not mind the country as long as I have trees, green grass, water. My husband moved me to Western Kansas. I have none of that. I went through a depression the first 2-3 months I was here. It has been almost a year and I can not handle it. My school is suffering, my family is suffering and my sanity is suffering. I am sure I am still in a depression. I go to school, but the hour drive is not fun for me. I have no time for hobbies and I have tried to make friends but they seem to be caught up in some town gossip that I do not feel like getting into. I do not enjoy gardening or raising animal. It makes me think of the things I love and I get more depressed. I have read the responses that you got and none of them are anything that would make country life easier for me. Did you happen to get anything useful. This Thanksgiving I saw some westerns and my blood pressure started getting high. I need help.


donna in wv    Posted 03-05-2003 at 13:29:44       [Reply]  [Send Email]
jess i'm new to this site but everyone here is always willing to help or just chat .my move from the city was just recent to and i understand because most of the people i know here are related to my husband[that's not bad but i wanted friends of my own]so i started going to church and met a few ladies who did neele work and other crafts and i fine it really fills the day i also get a counrty magazine with a pen pal list and i write to 3 different people.good luck and remember were all here if you get lonely


TB    Posted 03-05-2003 at 12:52:02       [Reply]  [No Email]
Just some thoughts. Have you been around to visit the neighbors what are there activities and if there any group activities. Are there any local fire co,s around they can always use assistance on found raisers etc there always short handed. Any good causes you can donate some time a couple hours a week. Pets and animals always a big help. Different hobbies and projects. The end of winter is always the hardest time (cabin fever) and is usually a good time for a change of scenery or a road trip to enjoy the sceenery.


kathy in Illinois    Posted 03-05-2003 at 12:40:51       [Reply]  [No Email]
Jess, I know how you feel...in the winter at least. I feel very unproductive when there is nothing to do but clean. BUT, spring is coming. Next time you go to the store, grab a few seed packets...peas are a very early crop, and they will give you a "quick fix" with the gardening/growing thing. Just stick them a 1/2 inch into the soil along an existing fence and keep moist. In no time, you'll see them sprouting and you'll be looking forward to fresh peas for dinner Ask your husband to remove a small patch of sod, or build a small raised garden out of wood or cinder blocks (if you cannot bend over due to your back surgery) cover with some thoroughly soaked newspaper (20 - 40 sheets at least, and any sort of mulch you can find. Weight down the edges and keep moist. Any type of plant can be planted right thru the paper and mulch.

As posted above, chickens are a very nice pet...they really are sweet. If you just have 1 or 2, they can live in a dog house, and you can make a simple fence around the dog house to keep them safe and confined. Most aggricultural supply stores are taking orders for chicks right about now. And if you need any advice, lots of folks on this board keep chickens.

Keep in touch so you don't get too lonley. Any time you need to chat...we're all here! Some time I'll tell you about my own chickens, dogs, cats, and garden! Enjoy your country home...it's the best place in the world.

Kathy in Illinois


Duke Black    Posted 03-05-2003 at 12:19:43       [Reply]  [No Email]
You need a hobby you enjoy girl.Have you tried making friends in the new area?Get some new seeds started.Go get a new dog.Are you taking anything for back pain?The reason I ask about pain pills is sometime they make you grugy and depressed.Ask your doc maybe he can help.You think your isolated try havin a name like Duke Black.


rhouston    Posted 03-05-2003 at 12:29:20       [Reply]  [No Email]
I thought that was just your handle. I was even going to suggest Black Adder after you were giving Ludwig a hard time.
Not the snake the Brit comedy show.


Duke Black    Posted 03-05-2003 at 12:55:21       [Reply]  [No Email]
I gave everyone a chance at the name.Duke Black seem to fit my mean out look on life.So I went with it.Now every time I write that depressing name I just have to smile.Maybe it worked.Ludwig ok just couldn't resist.


Lazy Al    Posted 03-05-2003 at 11:53:36       [Reply]  [No Email]
Maybe go back and visit where you came from .
After two years it might not look so good .
and make where you are seem a whole lot better .
This time of year alot of people get down in the
dumps ready for summer . and DARN tired of winter and no sun . Me encluded .
Al


Salmoneye    Posted 03-05-2003 at 11:28:22       [Reply]  [Send Email]
My Wife is sorta like you...

I do not leave the property very often at times...I go for spells of weeks where I do not leave at all...Then there are months where I will be gone every day for a few hours at least...Doesn't bother me either way...Wife would go nuts if she did not get out and see other people though, hence I get home duty...

Is there a way you can volunteer somewhere a couple days a week?...Maybe work bagging groceries or something?...Feeding someones animals?

For me it is 'puttering' all winter...The Girl is home half the day still, and the internet every time I walk by and have a few minutes...

'Isolation' is all a state of mind IMHO...


Cindi    Posted 03-05-2003 at 11:10:00       [Reply]  [No Email]
Do you have animals? I found great comfort in mine in the beginning. They can be wonderful company. Maybe do a little indoor gardening if you have a free sunny spot where you could start some seedlings for a garden this season. A bountiful vegetable garden can really lift your spirits and give you something to focus on.


Jess    Posted 03-05-2003 at 11:17:19       [Reply]  [No Email]
I had to put my 13 yr. old retriever down in Jan. I have a kitten who is great company. I know I need to get another dog. I really miss her. I had a veggie garden last year and loved doing that. I started seedlings but they all bombed on me. I should probably get some kind of hobby.


Cindi    Posted 03-05-2003 at 11:39:55       [Reply]  [No Email]
Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. I was thinking more along the lines of a few goats maybe, or a pig or two. Maybe raise a few rabbits. Take advantage of your country setting, you know.


Tom A    Posted 03-05-2003 at 11:58:47       [Reply]  [No Email]
A few chickens are great. They're easy to take care of, don't eat a heck of a lot, are funny to watch, and you get fresh eggs almost every day. My wife talks to hers and they follow her around and she can pick 'em up and pet 'em like a dawg.


Stan ETenn    Posted 03-05-2003 at 11:37:24       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Jess, look for hobby that can make a little money. Seeing a how you can go on-line you can really learn a lot from this thing. There's a lot of people on this forum that will be a friend to you. You may have to be by yourself but you don't have to be lonely. Compared to a lot of people in this world I live in paradise. Maybe you do too!


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