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Person who talks all the time
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Frank    Posted 07-08-2003 at 17:37:14       [Reply]  [No Email]
How do you folks handle a situation where you end up putting up with someone who talks all the time??

I have a sister in law who comes to visit, and when I try to talk to my brother, she butts in and dominates the conversation. She thinks she knows everything and has an opinion about any subject.

The bottom line is, she destroys the visit cause I can't have an enjoyable conversation with my brother. My brother has learned to tolerate it.

How do you handle people who feel they must dominate every conversation?

cowgirlj    Posted 07-09-2003 at 06:56:22       [Reply]  [Send Email]
I know most of you are joking! Right!

Try being honest! Tell her, you know as my sister inlaw, I love you but.....

Clod    Posted 07-09-2003 at 13:15:37       [Reply]  [No Email]
He may be leaveing a lot of empty air gaps in between his words.There are some folks who talk very slow and space their words so far apart that bystanders want to fill the gaps.

KellyGa    Posted 07-08-2003 at 21:48:32       [Reply]  [No Email]
My daddy had a sister like that. She always would just start in talking like he wasn't in the middle of a sentence. He didn't know what to do. So one time when he was talking to someone, and she did that, he looked off into space and said "Hello wall!" and proceeded to keep on talking while looking at the wall, well she didn't know what to make of it! :) Guess she thought he was crazy! I don't think she even knew why he did that.

Jimbob    Posted 07-08-2003 at 20:01:06       [Reply]  [No Email]
Well, pretend to look at a tractor while needing your brother. If sister-in-law is a mechanic, your SOL.

rhudson    Posted 07-08-2003 at 19:21:43       [Reply]  [Send Email]
In the old days, the men folk would get a big glass of ice tea and go out to the front pourch to talk. the women would stay in the kitchen and drink coffie. (i'm not saying this is a guy/girl problem). i was just remembering the way people grouped themselves when i was a kid.

do you have a tractor with no muffler and smokes that is stored outside? if so go outside and crank it up and talk as you are working on it. if you don't have a tractor or part of one , you need one or two or .....

DeadCarp    Posted 07-08-2003 at 18:59:27       [Reply]  [No Email]
Drag out a tape recorder and tell her you're keeping momentos. You're sure nobody will notice.
(it's still a gamble - about half the populaton HATES talking on tape)So if she still doesn't slow down, play the tape back til she understands.

buck    Posted 07-08-2003 at 18:32:58       [Reply]  [No Email]

Many years ago we had a neighbor that just never shut up but to top it off she carried around this little dog that did the same thing. One particular time that she came to visit and motor mouthing as usual and the dog on her shoulder trying to keep up. I happend to be washing my hands at the kitchen sink when it came to me that that dog could use a taste of the bar of soap. Before the dog could get its mouth to stop moving it had demolished the bar of soap.The woman left in a huff and mom could hardly hold back the laughter long enough to say "Son you shouldn't have done that" Don't remember the woman ever visiting again but Mom and I had a lot of laughs about it.

Clod    Posted 07-08-2003 at 17:42:18       [Reply]  [No Email]

Vic in Kenefick    Posted 07-08-2003 at 18:01:10       [Reply]  [No Email]
I can quote you many ways to handle this situation. Most of which would land us in the funny farm. Guess it depends on how much you want to pl$$ her off to make her shut up. I have made major mistakes at second guessing this kind of thing so I highly recomend that you do not take any advice from me on how to handle your life. In fact I highly recomend that you do not ever take any advice from me on anything. I could keep on telling you why but then I would ba the person that talks all the time. Right?

Cindi    Posted 07-08-2003 at 18:07:46       [Reply]  [No Email]
The best medicine for a rude person is their own brand. It may be very hard for you to do, if you are a well mannered person, but you have to force yourself for your own sanity. Interrupt her.

Other people will probably notice before she does, but they will probably catch on real quick cause chances are she does it to everybody.

She set the rules, if she views it as okay to interrupt then all's fair. You may have several instances of 'talking over' each other, but be strong and be the loudest just like Clod said.

Or, you can just put up with it. Or you can pull her to the side and tell her it makes you uncomfortable. But it won't work. JMHO.

Clod    Posted 07-08-2003 at 18:19:41       [Reply]  [No Email]
Talk about mechanical,electrical, Dozers ,,sledge hammers. trailer light wireing,,,,,Guttin deer,,,rifles,,,

Cindi    Posted 07-08-2003 at 18:58:30       [Reply]  [No Email]
Yeah yeah! That's good too, talk about things she knows nothing about, maybe she'll get bored and wander away. I hate to be mean or rude to people but some folks just bring it on themselves.

My best friend is a control freak. She would get in the middle of whatever I was trying to do and tell me how to do it and everything I was doing wrong. Never mind the fact it was something she had never done before. Like plumbing for example. Girl wouldn't know an elbow from a coupling.

I love her to death and I waited a year before I lost my cool and told her to get her control freakin' paws off of my cake/birdhouse/computer/kids/you name it.

She had no idea she was doing it, and now she doesn't do it anymore. At least not to me anyway and we get along great. She was just in this habit that she'd been getting away with for years.

The thing is, when you help someone see a flaw like that, they become more likable, so you're really doing them a good, in my opinion.

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