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Obnoxious kids
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Cindi    Posted 07-25-2003 at 10:09:45       [Reply]  [No Email]
There's a kid at my house. I have been putting off letting him spend the night because he gets on my nerves. My husband can't stand him. It's like the boy's parents just gave up on him and didn't teach him anything. He is the younger brother of my daughter's boyfriend, so I'm sure I'll be seeing a lot of him as it looks like they are going to get married.

This kid is the same age as my son, 14, he eats with his hands. Stuff that is not appropriate to eat with your hands. Macaroni and cheese? We took him and his brother out to dinner once and he embarrassed us to death.

He talks constantly and has nothing to say. My son Jake convinced me to let him spend the night last night. This morning I see Jake sitting on the couch across from Jill. El obnoxious'o was sitting next to Jake. Jake has a couch cushion up by his face and he is mouthing to Jill...'PLEASE>>>>TAKE>>>>>HIM>>>>>HOME'

Looks like Jake finally figured out what our problem is with this kid so I don't expect he'll be spending the night again any time soon.

Why do people do this? Why do they turn kids loose in the world that nobody can stand to be around? How do you explain to them that you don't want their kid to come over? Poor Jill gets the brunt of it because he is related to her boyfriend so she gets to listen to all the complaints when he leaves. This is really sad. Jill's boyfriend is the nicest, most respectful boy you'd ever want to meet. His brother is the exact opposite.

It took us months to break him of cursing in our house. Now he just talks, and talks, and talks, and talks....and SINGS. Off tune. Plus he's got this high soprano voice that stabs you in your ear like an ice pick. Plus he DIPS tobacco, and his teeth......shudder.

Oh, heck, I could go on for days. I feel really bad for Jill, but this kid is a bad influence and just generally irritating and I don't want him here anymore. How would you handle it?

ret    Posted 07-25-2003 at 11:11:23       [Reply]  [No Email]
Macaroni with his hands???/ I believe you, cause strange things go on at your house. Have to believe he is mentally short somewhere, but even they can learn to eat with utensils. Now, you want your daughter to have inlaws like that? 16 is too young to get married today, for gods sake, try to do something so she can finish school and learn about the world a bit. If it can't be done, going to be a long road ahead of her probably, with a lot of heartbreak for you too. Some kids don't listen, some do, better try to reverse what hs been going on in her life and see if it helps

Les    Posted 07-25-2003 at 10:43:51       [Reply]  [No Email]
And this kid's brother, Jill's boyfriend, was raised differently? And she would rather be there than in her own home?
Sounds like this kid is the least of your problems. My daughter's two stepsons were kind of like that after 10 or 12 years of being "raised" by their mother. Totally uncivilized.

Cindi    Posted 07-25-2003 at 10:54:27       [Reply]  [No Email]
No. He was raised by exactly the same parents. That's what I don't get. Paul and his parents are very nice poeple. I don't know what is wrong with the brother.

He is in special classes at scool, but it's only because he's slow in math. It's almost like the minute his parent's heard...'learning disability' they just gave up on him because...'he can't help it.'

He has not been taught manners, or if he has, they were not drilled into him, or expected to be complied with to any real degree. I don't think he's that learning impaired. When he was told point blank to clean up his mouth or he would never be allowed in our house again, he did it.

WHOA WHOA WHOA!    Posted 07-25-2003 at 10:41:18       [Reply]  [No Email]
"He is the younger brother of my daughter's boyfriend, so I'm sure I'll be seeing a lot of him as it looks like they are going to get married."

Aint this CHILD of yours 16???

I really have to be missing something here...


Cindi    Posted 07-25-2003 at 10:58:38       [Reply]  [No Email]
No, you're not missing a thing. Jillian will be seventeen in October. She and Paul met in October of 2002 and they have been practically inseperable since.

Paul is eighteen and just graduated. He is a mechanic for one of the local car dealerships. I have no doubt that they are in love and no doubt that eventually they will be married. I will be very surprised if it doesn't happen. The time frame they have discussed is June 2005.

I felt the same way you did six months ago, but I have seen them together.

Salmoneye    Posted 07-25-2003 at 11:36:00       [Reply]  [No Email]
The only thing I can say is...

Never mind...I will hold my tongue...OK...I'll say this...

'Courtship' the way you describe used to be the norm with more likely than not a lifelong marriage resulting...For good or bad...It aint that way anymore...

The statistics of first marriages ending in divorce are staggering, and the likelyhood of divorce goes up exponentially when the couple is as young as they are...

I graduated in 1981 and there were 7 couples I knew that got married right after highschool...One couple is still together...I only know of one other 'highschool romance' that has lasted and they are my little sisters age...The real tragedy is the children that come from these homes...Trust me...I am one of them...

Not very good odds...

As for the Little Brother...Pretty simple in my book...Don't let him in your house or yard...Maybe he will get the hint...I have one kid I won't let here to play with my Daughter...He is 6, and I could care less what his parents think...

I'll shut up now...

Les    Posted 07-25-2003 at 12:00:14       [Reply]  [No Email]
"He is 6, and I could care less what his parents think" You could?
You really must care about his parents, eh?

OK, Les...    Posted 07-25-2003 at 12:46:37       [Reply]  [No Email]
do you do that?!!
How come you can make blue smiley faces and words? :-(
....and I cant!! It's not fair!!


Les...Okay    Posted 07-25-2003 at 12:53:42       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Give me a ping and I will try to explain the little bit that I know. There are a lot of others who know how to do it a lot better than I do. People like Cornfused and F14 (Fawteen).
Leave out the .nospam

Lenore    Posted 07-25-2003 at 15:23:03       [Reply]  [No Email]
I will be experimenting now. :-)

Sheesh...    Posted 07-25-2003 at 17:47:51       [Reply]  [No Email]
Give a person a little ATM training and look what happens...Oh wait...Maybe that is HTML...whatever...

Salmoneye, The Intrepid

Speaking of which...    Posted 07-25-2003 at 13:10:52       [Reply]  [No Email]
Where is that Maine(iac)???

Salmoneye, Who bets he is hanging with the talers

Cindi    Posted 07-25-2003 at 12:32:14       [Reply]  [No Email]
You tickle me to death with know? LMAO

Caught me a'gin...    Posted 07-25-2003 at 12:20:56       [Reply]  [No Email]
So I'm from The Grants...What do ya want from me, eh?...


Salmoneye, Who Needs A Proof Reader

Les...Well    Posted 07-25-2003 at 12:51:17       [Reply]  [No Email]
I could care less but it would take too much effort. ><(((((o>

buck    Posted 07-25-2003 at 10:38:44       [Reply]  [No Email]

Cindy it appears to me that you care enough for this young man to see his obvious faults so it follows that you will just have to take him under your wing and guide him in a more correct direction.

Cindi    Posted 07-25-2003 at 11:00:44       [Reply]  [No Email]
At the very least I guess I can teach him what is expected of him when he's in our home. I feel really bad for him though becuase I see a life of lonliness for him if he doesn't change his ways.

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