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Reddee    Posted 07-26-2003 at 17:30:47       [Reply]  [No Email]
This coming up Friday, August 1,2003, My daughter will be moving out on her own. No she ain't just moving into town or down the street but 600 miles away from me!! Even though getting your kids grown and on their own so you can finally enjoy life is something I too have been anticipating, I somehow feel like I'm being deserted!! She wants to attend college in MS and besides her Father lives there! "WAIT A MINUTE!! was he there holding her hair back as she was getting sick, or there to comfort her when she had her first heartbreak??? I think NOT!!!" But now I guess he is entitled to enjoy her as a young adult!! She knows her father for who he is, So it's not that I feel she's choosing him over me, I just feel cheated or something!! I'm really very proud of her. She is really good with her money, she pays her bills and has never (since she started working, 2 1/2 years ago)asked me for anything. She buys her own clothes, bought her own car, insurance, and has managed to save about $4,000.00 for this move! (Between her and her beaux)! I will be going with her on the 1st to help her set up housekeeping, and have a (hopefully) memorable Mother/Daughter hen party! As much as I can't wait, I also dread it! Her raisin' days are over and now she gets to live what we all know as LIFE!! They already have a place waiting, a 2bdrm townhouse for $450. Boy, when I first started out I thought My $150. was really high!! They have $1,000.00 set aside for things she'll need drainer, towels, soap,etc.. She asked me if I thought that would be enough?? With a very shocked and concerned look I slowly said"Uhh, ya Sis I think that should cover it..." Geez, I wish I had that kind of money for household stuff today, much less for my very first apartment!!! She wants me and her to do ALL this shopping so I figure with all the money I'll surely save her (heehee) I'm figurin' she take ol' Mom out for a nice dinner! *evil grin* LOL Just thought I'd share this with ya'll!!! Redd

Taylor Lambert    Posted 07-27-2003 at 10:13:59       [Reply]  [No Email]
Reddee, Which college is your daugther going to? I have a few friends that are in administration a few colleges and they can help with anything extra fincially. They say its not alot but its awful helpful. I got a grant that gave me 500 dollars for gass and maintenace on my car since i did a commute.

Reddee    Posted 07-27-2003 at 07:22:09       [Reply]  [No Email]
Thanks everybody!! Everyday gets a little closer and everyday I have this over powering urge to tell her she's grounded and not going anywhere!!! LOL I've 2 boys left to go but something tells me it won't be as hard as letting the girl go off on her own! Thanks ya'll are great! Reddee

Reddee    Posted 07-27-2003 at 19:23:31       [Reply]  [No Email]
She is going to start at Pearl River in Forrest County before she goes on to a University! Thanx!! Redd

Taylor Lambert    Posted 07-28-2003 at 19:46:23       [Reply]  [No Email]
My brother spoke in Pearl Ms after he wrote his book. It a pretty nice place. I dug lots of holes down there building display lots. Ill see if Mr. Crane is still around down there he s a big help with school funding.

Jimbob    Posted 07-27-2003 at 07:02:04       [Reply]  [No Email]
I'll tell you this, the young do not spend time sorting out who's who. They are exploring.

The biological father (not daddy here) you are referring to is likey a deadbeat. These guys are like a Remora eel- going along for a free ride at others expense. They can explain it to God when they get there. In the mean time, your well raised daughter already knows the difference between both of you. Time will take care of everything.

DeadCarp    Posted 07-27-2003 at 06:19:09       [Reply]  [No Email]
My folks smiled at each other over 60 years ago and 9 months later, along came me! Little did i know what a glorious, exciting, irreplacable gift i had received. There are some significant events in our life, and most are marked by some kinda ceremony. Not so with "leaving home" but it's probably one of the most important steps you'll ever take. I remember being homesick, i remember realizing that every "junk" item in the darn drawer cost somebody money, i remember the day i realized i'm not much of a salesman so i'd better make better plans, i remember saving 6 weeks for my first "pawn shop" radio, only to have some sailor's wife run off with it! I remember holding MY firstborn in my arms the first time and hoping the best for him. Yep, life has been a big deal indeed. :)

Patria / PR    Posted 07-27-2003 at 04:45:10       [Reply]  [Send Email]
My hat is off to you Reddee, your daughter's a beautiful and well educated young woman indeed.

And I can clearly see from whom she got her looks...:-)


BadMoon    Posted 07-27-2003 at 00:26:40       [Reply]  [No Email]
Reddee, She's a pretty girl-Looks just like Mom! My daughter graduated in May from Ole Miss. Now she is going to summer school and one more year for her Masters. Lordy, Me and the wife are worried where she will finally accept work! Hope she won't fly too far. Good luck on your Daughters career goals. BadMoon

Willy-N    Posted 07-26-2003 at 19:53:28       [Reply]  [No Email]
You did good! Now it is time for her to show you how well she learned with you as the Father figure. The maternal father is not the same as the Father who raises the child. My day will come but mine said she likes it here to much to move out? Why should she, she has everything she needs all ready. I would be lost with out her too! She will be going to Collage for 4 years after 1 year of getting a break from regular scool. Mark H.

grouch    Posted 07-26-2003 at 19:33:43       [Reply]  [No Email]
Sounds like you've done your part well! Thanks for sharing the story.

At 600 miles you can't just run over and check on her though.

Good Luck to ya both!

Reddee    Posted 07-26-2003 at 18:26:51       [Reply]  [No Email]

Here is a picture of my little "bird"!! This picture is one of her Senior pics. I couldn't believe that she wanted ol' Mom to be in them...I was honored!!! Reddee

Maggie/TX    Posted 07-26-2003 at 19:50:36       [Reply]  [No Email]
Redd, she is absolutely beautiful! And you are no slouch, either! I couldn't really see what you look like from this pic, as it is too dark, but I took it to my scanning program and increased the gamma enough to see you.

I can sympathize on the move. My daughter (who just turned 20 on the 16th) just got married and moved to Oklahoma. It is not easy to get used to the idea that she's not going to be coming to spend the weekend with me, shopping and watching chick flick videos, like she did at least once a month while she was in college. She picked a college only an hour and a half drive away and now this...

After she leaves, the best thing you can do is find yourself a hobby or some kind of "mission" to really get into to combat the "empty nest syndrome" thing. Good luck!

Lenore    Posted 07-26-2003 at 21:02:35       [Reply]  [No Email]
Very pretty girl and evidently very smart, too!
Congratulations on a job well done!

Cindi    Posted 07-27-2003 at 05:01:35       [Reply]  [No Email]
Beautiful picture and I love the pose, lots of tenderness and love there. Remeber when I posted not too long ago about how far you went when you left home the first time? What was it like? That's why. I dread it. I'm looking forward to it but I have this horror that they will go too far away. Sniff.

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