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Homeatlast    Posted 08-14-2003 at 21:54:55       [Reply]  [No Email]
I'm brand new to this.

Folks have given me the impression over the years that newcomers are not welcomed into a rural area or community, often. They seem disgusted that "city folk" are moving into "their territory." Some of this is human nature , but, what exactly defines a newcomer?

My great great grands settled areas of Vermont. Other grands and relatives, areas of CO and CONN and KS. My grandmother grew up in very rural VT. I visited her, there, every summer that I was not visting my other Grandma in Appalachia. My parents grew up in Long Island, but as soon as they were married, bought a 200 year old stone house way out on a country road in CT. I was born there.

After graduating and having two kids, my Dad thought it best for him to take a job with the U.S. gov. We moved to MD and he got us as rural a place as he could at the time. It wound up being a city later, but the house still backs to untouched woods.

I grew up with a longing and a plan to move to the country. I feel as though I am back home in this place. But all around I would be considered a newcomer. I never really -lived- in the country, but....

What's your take?

Ladyhawk    Posted 08-15-2003 at 06:18:55       [Reply]  [No Email]
When I first met my husband he was living in the house he was in since he was 2years old. Everyone new and loved him. When I came into the picture they found everything wrong with me. I was just a gal from the Bay Area trying to live in the country. They literal laughed at me. It was really hard at first. I did not dare to complain about anything. Just expressed a positive attitude and kept moving forward, getting involved with the community. Now the girl from the big city is the one they call to sell their big ranches.. It takes patient.

Jimbob    Posted 08-15-2003 at 05:51:59       [Reply]  [No Email]
The more persons that live in an area increases that chance that more problems are going to exist in the same area.

That is how persons view it & I agree simply from a logistic standpoint.

Being a transplant from the city, it has taken quite a few years for acceptance & some will never accept me. I had little in common with the folks until I started actually living the same life. That is, running a small farm with animals. Now, I barter with the neighbors & share information they can relate to.

Les    Posted 08-15-2003 at 04:03:50       [Reply]  [No Email]
We've been outnumbered by "newcomers" for most of my life here. It ain't no big deal.

Pepicker    Posted 08-15-2003 at 03:00:29       [Reply]  [No Email]
Mostly I believe it's up to You. We live in an area where it's third,fourth and fifth generation people. A few Folks come here,buy a place stay mabe a Year, put the place up for sale, sell it to more "outsiders" who will do the same. Mostly these are people who expect the existing Neighborhood to conform to Their ways. They could live here a hundred Years and would still be rank outsiders.

We bought an old Farm here about 16 years ago, were accepted right off and by now most of the people have completely forgotten that We are not third generation. Be one with the People and what ever You do donot refer to how folks did things where You lived befor and for sure absolutely donot criticize.

Good luck

Salmoneye    Posted 08-15-2003 at 03:57:36       [Reply]  [No Email]
Well put...

LH    Posted 08-14-2003 at 23:05:15       [Reply]  [No Email]
Teh best way to fit in is just not to start complaining and try to get to know your neighbors.

Pitch    Posted 08-15-2003 at 01:54:10       [Reply]  [No Email]
Some places you will be a newcomer all your life maybe all rural places. I have lived in the same county for 25 years (two different houses ten miles apart) We are a part of the neighborhood my kids were born here my grandchildren were born here but we are still newcomers.The priviledge of being an insider is reserved for those 15 or 20 families whose anscesters settled the area. The area where I was born is about 70 miles from here and I haven't lived there for 25 years but I am still one of the insiders and so are my children even though they have never lived there. I think it is roots. My family has farmed and owned land in the old ara since 1797 and somehow wrong or right it gives you a sense of paternalism towards the area.

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