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Upcoming holiday season - a time of joy or gloom?
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Cowboy Joe    Posted 11-15-2001 at 06:22:16       [Reply]  [No Email]
This can be either a wonderful time to celebrate the holidays or a stressful/miserable time for those folks who have lost loved ones or feel left out of the "mainstream." Particularly with the events of Sept. 11 and the economy this could be a rough year for some of us Any comments?

Dreamweaver    Posted 11-16-2001 at 14:13:26       [Reply]  [No Email]
The past couple of holidays for me have been very sad and depressing. For personal reasons I won't bore anybody with, it looks like I'm in store for more of the same. All I can say is that everyday I type reports on people at the hospital who truly have problems. Things that I should be greatful for are my health. I am a cancer survivor and a domestic violence survivor, and there are people out there who are not so fortunate as me. I give thanks everyday to God my Father for bringing me through all this. But sometimes CJ, you can't help but feel like you are not worthy of being loved, and that hurts. Everybody basically wants to be loved. It is a human need. Call it self-pity, which I know it is, but right now, I just feel very unlovable. Holidays are very lonely times for me. Even when I was married, I was alone. I think that if I could point out the most important problem in this world today, it would be the fact that there are way too many people who are alone and unloved. If we all focused on those souls, I believe the world would be a utopia. I thank God everyday for my life. But sometimes, I just feel like it doesn't mean a whole lot. Thanks for listening.

Cowboy Joe    Posted 11-17-2001 at 07:33:20       [Reply]  [No Email]
DW - The fact that you shared some very personal thoughts and feelings on this board, is a testimonial to your basic strength of character and motivation despite your personal losses. The holiday season is a very difficult time for those of us who have lost love ones, a job, or connections to the past and/or present. Time marches on. We need to make the most of what happens TODAY. One day at a time. As for the holidays from Thanksgiving through New Year's, I wish the time would fly on by.

F14...How about a time of complete indifference?    Posted 11-16-2001 at 13:46:38       [Reply]  [No Email]
I decline to buy into the whole concept. If you're not a practicing Christian, then you're just falling for a bunch of retailer propaganda. If you are a practicing Christian, then the focus should be the Reason, not the season.

I can (and do) get together with my family and enjoy my grandkids anytime I want to.

Bah. Humbug. I won't set foot in a mall between Halloween and New Year's Day.

Cowboy Joe    Posted 11-17-2001 at 07:25:26       [Reply]  [No Email]
F14 - I throughly agree with your post.

jeff    Posted 11-16-2001 at 10:14:30       [Reply]  [Send Email]
why is it I can always find a post on that I can either learn something from or be realy inspired with. This holiday season will be our first one without my dad,just passing on nov.9th. He will be with us in spirit (a hole lot of spirit).We will spend time with mom remembering the great things he has done for all,the great time we spent and the love he gave.WE will remember always. Jeff

Cowboy Joe    Posted 11-17-2001 at 07:24:11       [Reply]  [No Email]
Sorry about your loss. I lost my father in 1988 and my mother in 1996. Both will be remembered forever.

Gary    Posted 11-16-2001 at 05:09:25       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Just remember what the season is really for. Celebration of the birth Jesus Christ.

It has nothing to do with a blue light special at Kmart or midnight madness at walmart.

If you insist on taking the non religous route, The season is for being togeather and showing your love, not buying your love.

BB    Posted 11-16-2001 at 05:03:40       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Ever notice that most of the people who live beyond 80 with good health are usually the laid back, easy going, positive attitude types. I don't believe good health necessarily brings positive attitudes. I believe positive attitudes brings good health, or at least acceptance of what you do have. The mind is an extremely powerful thing. I firmly believe a person can make himself sick, or he can make himself well. It all depends on how he/she approaches life. You can dwell on your misfortunes and/or the evils of this world and be sick and miserable. You can ignore those misfortunes and focus on what is good and be happy and healthy. Two people can have a bad cold. The one with a poor outlook on life will go to bed for 3 days. The one with a positive attitude will go about life as normal and hardly have any symptoms.
Sorry for the ramblings. I just don't understand why some people seem intent on being unhappy. Open up your hearts and lives and let the sun shine in. Rejoice in the good things in life. Cast the bad ones aside.

Phyllis    Posted 11-15-2001 at 19:03:36       [Reply]  [Send Email]
This is a Christmas I can hardly wait for! Despite all the things going on in the world, and here in America, you can be happy and joyful in your heart. Last Christmas, we didn't know if dad was going to live or die. I was in the emergency room on Christmas Day, and home alone crying on Christmas Eve. Now, he's home and doing great, and I am chompin' the bits waiting for this year's Christmas with the family! When the folks are getting older, you never know when it will be the last time you'll all be together here, so I think you should enjoy every minute of it.

Cowboy Joe    Posted 11-15-2001 at 19:06:15       [Reply]  [No Email]
Phyllis - Nice post. I agree with everything you said.

PCC-AL    Posted 11-15-2001 at 16:26:42       [Reply]  [No Email]
Hi All,
I like the replies and attitudes given here. I would like to say that my mother was the greatest optimist (sp?) that I have ever known. She died in 97 at 95 years old. Whatever happened in life, she always looked on the bright side. I never knew her disposition to fail her. Everyone loved her and wanted to be around her because of her attitude. ALWAYS LOOK ON THE BRIGHT SIDE. My wish for all of you is to have the memories of your mother that I do of mine. Have a great holiday and say thanks to thoses away from home defending our way of life.

BB    Posted 11-15-2001 at 10:24:44       [Reply]  [Send Email]
Life is what you make it. I know people who have suffered endless tragedys and yet maintain a positive and happy outlook on life. And others who seemingly have everything and yet are always down. We will all suffer losses of varying degrees. But it is far better to remember and celebrate the good times had, than dwell on the sad ones. Easier said than done? Not if you approach life with the right attitude. That's not to say you shouldn't be sad at the lost of a loved one. Just don't dwell on the loss. Instead, remember the blessings.
Here's hoping everyone has a great holiday season.

Dan G/Soganofla    Posted 11-15-2001 at 08:15:20       [Reply]  [Send Email]
There can be no doubt that trying times are upon us. At times like this, it is important to allow the holiday season to be a time of hope. We should use it as an opportunity to celebrate the lives of those that are lost, rather than mourning their loss. It is always healthier to focus on the things we have, instead of dwelling on the things we don't have.

LazyHorse    Posted 11-15-2001 at 07:25:42       [Reply]  [No Email]
My family is all gone except for one sister, neice, and nephews. We usually celebrate at the wife's folks, but I have a feeling it will be a sad season since her dad died unexpectedly in May. May I wish all my frineds here a happy Thanksgiving, and a joyous holiday season.

PCC-AL    Posted 11-15-2001 at 17:39:42       [Reply]  [No Email]
Hi LazyHorse
Hope you have a good one. I've been there and done that. Life is H--- for a while after you lose the best. Good luck & take care.

Cowboy Joe    Posted 11-15-2001 at 19:09:31       [Reply]  [No Email]
Thanks for your comments. I agree with all of them. HAPPY HOLIDAYS TO ALL.

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