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Topic: Time to ask for prayers for Daddy
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granny h

09-08-2009 06:40:38
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I could post this on the new KL site...but ol habits are hard to shake...

The circle of life as I've known it for 56 years is about to close. Daddy is hanging in there like the cantankerus, fussing, opinated, cussing ol warrior he has always been. Today he is being moved to the Three East Hospice Care unit at the Veteran's Hospital in Columbia Mo.

Normal weight for him is around 214 or so...and he's down to 132. He opens his once blue eyes and looks at me, seems to know me, and I know more and have that thought and his eyes fade to a light gray and he looks through me. I know he's slipped away again to the terrible dark hole that alzheimer's has him locked in. He has no mobility anymore, barley turns his head to the sound of a voice. He eats. Daddy has always loved good food and by golly they feed them well in there. His nurses are wonderful, often I think they are there for the family as much as daddy.

The prostrate cacer has spread to his hip, pelvic and upper thigh bones, possibley the spine too. His thyrold is inlarged and there is
cloudyness in the brain scan. He also has 27 bed sores. He was taken to HRH friday afternoon, and by evening was transfered to the Vet's hospital..he's been in the 4th floor urgent care unit till today...today he goes to 3 East hospice care unit.

ol Vern, myself, my sons, niece Cyndi and her husband and kids have been with him sense friday afternoon..another grandson and his wife was there all day sunday. One brother won't come for what ever reason he has and David showed up yesterday. Daddy is the youngest of 7 kids, and all have passed on. I put in a call to a few of his ol cronies to let them know and asked for a prayer chain at our church, called the preacher and made a card request in our local paper, and of course put the PGR on standby with a mission pending.

*Peanut, if your reading this, check on David, if you happen by his place. He's on the bike, so if it's gone, he is still down there. He's pretty much alone right now and I worry about him. I'm not sure if he's staying with daddy night and day, but was there yesterday.

I guess I'm just venting. Just wanting someone to know that daddy is in dire straights now. No pain, thank God. and...in many ways, the Daddy I knew was gone a long long time ago.

I need prayers to hold it together. As the oldest it will fall to me to make plans and inform friends and other family members. Once again ol Vern will be my blue eyed rock as he has sense friday afternoon.

I need prayers that Daddy will be accepted into the arms of Jesus soon, join mamma and our little Joshua, see his own mother and dad and not suffer through this ordeal for a long time. You may not understand me saying this, but wrong how ever it may be, I would rather see him go to Heaven now, then lay and be in terrible pain for weeks and weeks.

The hardest part was when he opened his eyes once and looked around, looked confused and then saw me and said, "Delores?" (that was mom)...I said "yes Billie lee?"...and one corner of his mouth turned up and he drifted back again.

He knew me 2 weeks ago when I took food and went to visit him. He ate vanilla wafers and drank milk.

I read where we are loosing close too 1,000 WW2 Veteran's a day now. Those brave young men and women who changed the course of history are dissapearing day after day. They really are, the greatest generation to ever live.

Soon another warrior will go home.

thank you KL family...thank you.

-granny h

9n141

09-09-2009 19:12:46
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Prayers from Canada for your entire family

Buzzman72's wife

09-09-2009 00:48:18
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Hollie,
As I read what you had written and all of the following comments, I sat here and cried. I cried because I know what you are going through. I lost my Daddy in 2001...we had a hospital bed in his living room and I stayed with him and Mom. I was with him when he passed on. I had just told him how much I loved him. I lost my Mommy only 2 years ago. I basically moved in her house with her to take care of her. My sister helped relieve me in her care. I was with Mom when she died also. She had kept looking at me, she smiled a little smile when I told her how much I loved her. I looked into her eyes and told her that I would be ok...if she had to go. She took one more breath while looking at me and she passed on. I am the youngest child. My Mom wasn't only my Mom...she was my friend and my hero.
I'm sorry for rambling on. I just wanted you to know that I know what you're going through. My prayers are with you, your Dad and all of the family. Take care.
Sherry

Vaca Roja

09-08-2009 21:36:54
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Hollie, prayers are going up for you, your Daddy and the rest of the family. It has been 9 years since we went through this, but I remember the gut churning feelings all too well. You are not wrong to want him to go to be at peace now so he doesn't have the pain.
Hang in there, lady. ((HUGS))

Redneck

09-08-2009 21:08:17
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I was lucky enough to be there when I lost daddy, momma and a brother. I got to talk to them and say what my heart told me to as they passed from this hard old world. They know and it helps. Hugs from us sis!

graywolf

09-08-2009 19:45:38
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My prayers to you and yours, my friend.

Mudcat49

09-08-2009 17:22:08
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Hollie,
Prayers and well wishes from Okeechobee Florida!
Mudcat

porkbelly

09-08-2009 15:55:35
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Will do gal.

Ol Tex 'n Vi

09-08-2009 15:53:35
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Hollie, please feel the hugs we're sending your way for all of you. Our prayers are with you all.
John 'n Vi

Patria

09-08-2009 14:58:50
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Will do, Hollie


Deb

09-08-2009 14:27:52
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Hollie I pray for him to be pain free in the arms of Jesus,soon, I pray for you and your family too. this is just part of life ,,,

Wylie Kyote

09-08-2009 14:09:18
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Hi Hollie. Sorry to hear your dad's in a bad way. As your dad was an ex soldier I will have my ex-services league say a prayer for him.
"Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn, but at the gowing down of the sun and in the morning, we will remember them. Lest we forget"
Prayers on the way. You and the family take care. Wylie and Jan

GeneSC

09-08-2009 14:08:08
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Will do Hollie
Gene & Molly

Doris~GC

09-08-2009 14:05:02
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Hollie,
Hugs for you and yours! Keep you'll in our prayers also.

Doris

Betty

09-08-2009 13:31:10
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Oh Hollie, my sincere prayers for you and your family, saying goodbys are so hard, I hope your daddy is comfortable at hospice.


Betty

jimp co

09-08-2009 13:00:37
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Sorry to hear about your father. I lost mine in 92 at the age of 79 from the prostrate cancer that traveled to all of his body too. We hade to make the decesion to pull the plug and let him go.
My thoughts amd prayers go out to all of you.
JimP

Bill No Mn

09-08-2009 12:12:14
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Its hard loeing family and friends. My thoughts are with you and yur family.-Bill

Lightening Bug

09-08-2009 11:49:23
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Morale support and prayers for your Dad and the family.

Anything I would post has been said already.

Take care.

Coffee

09-08-2009 11:47:06
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I know where you're at, and what you mean, and what you say about WWII Veterans. Difficult time; you're in my thoughts. Mark.

GeneMO

09-08-2009 11:29:20
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Hollie, hang in there. Sounds like a carbon copy of how my dad passed away. The hospice people say that a lot of times a person near death will have a short period where they seem to come to life, like wanting to say goodby before they pass on. My dad did.

Prayers are with you,

Gene

B Phlatt

09-08-2009 09:32:51
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World War 2 vets are larger than life and a very special breed...prayers are sent for a fine fellow and Dad !!

Sandspur

09-08-2009 08:21:28
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Prayers and hugs for all of you.
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RayP(MI)

09-08-2009 17:25:50
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same here.

seahag

09-08-2009 10:21:36
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My heart is with you Hoddie.. I remember how
I felt when I lost my folks
Gail

vabill

09-08-2009 07:59:20
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hollie, sorry to hear that your dad is so bad off. i understand your wanting him free from his pain and suffering, its hard for us to let go but its a blessing to know he will be with his loved ones soon. take care. bill

I understand

09-08-2009 07:52:38
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Oh hollie, I understand. Alzheimers took my mother a couple of years before she passed away. She was here but my mom was not. Bless her heart this sweet little stranger was here for me to take care of and I did. When her spirit left her body I thanked God for her.

I pray for a quick and painless transition for your father from his worn and weary body into his new glorious one in heaven. I also pray for you and your family for peace and strength. Prayers for God's blessings being sent your way.

~Lenore

09-08-2009 07:55:54
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That was me, sorry I did not sign it. I do understand.

Jimbo

09-08-2009 07:52:15
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Our prayers are with you and your family.
Jim

DD

09-08-2009 07:40:44
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Hollie, as someone who's taking care of my MIL (who also has advanced dementia) I totally understand you praying for your Dad to go gently and rather sooner than later at this point. We want to hold on to our Lil Sugars just as long as we can, but there comes a time when we realize that to keep them here is just prolonging the inevitable. It got to that point with my own GrandMother and is now that way with Pauline. She also has lost down from 112(her highest) to 80 lbs now. She's just a shadow of her former self and there's days when I just know I'll wake up the next morning and she'll be gone but there she is. Still getting around with her walker and eating every crunchy chinese noodle she can find...teehee. She always introduces me as HER MIL to the Hospice nurses and Doctor and we just go right along with it same as you did with your Dad. It's less confusing to do that than to argue with them. She talks to her long deceased husband at night too and I sometimes see her reaching her arms up to him. Those are the hardest times for me because I feel bad for thinking to myself "Lord, Please take her on. She misses her husband and has no real quality of life here. All she does is lay and watch old movies and nap all day. She's just existing at this point until it's her time to go so Please let her just go to sleep tonight and wake up there tomorrow". I'll miss her and even her little quirky ways about some things but I know in my heart that she'd be better off. Sounds like you've made peace with that too regarding your Dad so I pray that he goes gently and that everyone he leaves behind is comforted in knowing he'll be in a much better place than any of us left here. He'll be with your Mother once again and they'll be spoiling Joshua for you ((HUGS)) God Bless : )

bob ny

09-08-2009 07:28:46
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prayers for your father and the family bob & ada w.

HappyJunker

09-08-2009 07:01:47
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Hugs and prayers for your Daddy, you and your family. He will be home soon. Tracy.

J

09-08-2009 06:51:00
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Sorry to hear that...

Prayers of comfort for you and your Dad are on the way.

Red Dave

09-08-2009 06:50:45
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Will keep your Dad and your family in thoughts and prayers here Hollie.


If I may ask, how old is your Dad? Mine (also a WW2 vet) would have been 88 last week, if he was still alive.

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09-08-2009 06:59:53
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83...will be 84 in Jan.

getting ready to call the hospital now...see how he did during the night.

-thanks.........Hollie

rayinmo

09-08-2009 07:35:12
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I'm offering up my humble prayers for one of our nations greatest, all the world war 2 vets are gone in our family now..:-(

gran

09-08-2009 12:04:36
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My hesrt is with you Hollie
gran

Binbabe

09-08-2009 15:19:12
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Prayers are with you and your family Hollie.

B Love

09-08-2009 16:34:09
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yes mam sent tell him we all send him a thank you as well

Midway

09-09-2009 06:19:45
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will do Hollie

rustyj14

09-09-2009 19:22:55
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Hollie: It is a hard thing to go thru, as i well know. My mother died from Lupus, and my sister did, too. There were days we hoped Mum would go, but her strong will kept her here, until she could only move her eyes! I had to make the decision to "pull the plug"! The Dr. said i would have to live with that the rest of my life, but i could not stand there and watch her suffer with no hope of recovery!
My sister took the easy way out-just popped some kind of pill and 2 days later, she was gone.
Not an easy thing in life, but when folks have no hope, and are suffering, it is best to send them to God!
hopefully your Dad will not linger. And, your pain will lessen after a time of rest. Your Dad has a worn out body, and nothing can fix it.
Sending prayers for your whole family.
Rustyj/ Jim Hammitt

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