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Re: 14 year old daughter
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Posted by MikeT on February 10, 2005 at 09:10:23 from (188.8.131.52):
In Reply to: 14 year old daughter posted by right-wrong on February 10, 2005 at 03:59:00:
My experience in helping to raise 2 boys and two girls showed me that the mother and father have to communicate well with each other and have a lot of discussions among themselves about the activities of their children. They must also have a good open relationship with their children and keep lines of communication open at all times.
Taking a bull-headed, "Hell no, no way" approach is an invitation to trouble. Be involved in your childrens activities and encourage one-on-one activities between each of the parents and the children. I took my boys through Scouts and my girls through Indian Guides. The wife took the girls through Girl Scouts and the boys through Cub Scouts. Both of us went to all the PTA meetings. We got them involved with church activities (CYF, etc), and political organizations (young Republicans). They were on softball, swimming, soccer, and baseball teams and we either were the coaches or went to most of their games. We went camping a lot. We stayed in touch. (Basically, me and the wife worked our arses off)
Until our children turned 16, we mostly encouraged lots of group activities and tried to discourage as much private activities between the opposite sexes as we could (that we knew of).
A parents activities must center about those of their children during the formative child rearing years. The parents can play after the kids are raised!
All but one of our kids are now married and those 3 have children. All are college degreed, gainfully employed, own homes, and wondering how we raised them! (6 granddaughters and one, yet unknown, on the way!)
We now set back and give child rearing advise to our kids (when asked) and play with our grand kids when we're not otherwise involved with our own play schedule.
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